I have had issues with my parents over the years (dd is 4.5 now). For me, I have had to pick my battles. When at their house I allow whatever toys are there and even some limited junk food, but absolutely NO television. We have gone head-to-head on a few occasions and now they're good about it. When my dd was 2, my mom also got some dot-to-dot books and mazes and such. I wasn't thrilled but in the big scheme of things it didn't take dd too long to lose interest. If they ever get sent home I hide them. Perhaps you could ask your mom to send them to your house and then you could get rid of them??? To be honest, I have also limited how much "alone" time my parents have with my child. She gets to spend a couple of hours with them once a week and the rest of the time we're either all together or dd's with me and dh. I figure that I can only really control what happens on my turf, kwim? My sanity and level of happiness greatly improved, though, when I just accepted that I cannot raise my child entirely in Waldorf bubble wrap. I do my best at home and try to maintain balance outside of that.
Allison: a little bit Waldorf, a little bit Medievalish, and always"MOMMMMYYYY!" to sweet Cecily since 12.22.05