I went to high school at an alternative school, and many of my teachers were feminist-types with strong principles of equality. In college I took Women's Studies classes for fun. So with this in my brain, and a life-long quest for understanding gender roles, I find fairy tales to be somewhat tough. I also have two boys, and I do my best to expose them to balanced gender identities. I would probably be more adamant if I had girls, I think. Anyway, I see the importance of fairytales, and as we tell them, and afterwards, I reinforce the most positive attributes. Also, b/c my oldest 4.5, its not a huge concern, and we don't do stories like Snow White, yet, which is way too hardcore for me.