Originally Posted by bluglass
You have to remember the roots of Waldorf. Steiner was a wealthy philosopher. What we would now call new age. Even the theosophical society thought he was too far fetched. His life was far different from the school system he designed for the children of the probably very poor workers of the Waldorf Astoria Cigarette factory.
Sorry bluglass, but Steiner was never wealthy. He was born into a family of Austrian peasants: I believe his grandfather may have been a gamekeeper on a big estate or something of the sort. His father worked for the Austrian railway system as a stationmaster. They were as poor as the cigarette factory workers. He supported himself through several years of higher education by tutoring. Later he kept himself afloat by writing newspaper articles: theatre reviews, book reviews and so forth. He finally found steady work editing Goethe's scientific works for the definitive edition.
He was occasionally mocked for having a peasant's accent.
Even after he became a well-known 'guru' I can't recall anyone describing him as living high on the hog.
On the EB question, there is an anthroposophical nurse who has been critical of the dogma around this, but I'm not sure of her name. Rhys Smyth Freed or something sort of like that. Anyone know her?
I feel as though this is a question that needs to be openly and thoroughly debated. I've never actually heard definitive arguments on either side, so my position is just to let people do whatever they want and live with whatever the consequences might be. My daughter started out with both of her babies sharing the bed (one at a time, she didn't have twins
) and with the first she did a very gradual move into a side-sleeper, a somewhat lowered side sleeper and then eventually into her own room. The second one only lasted a couple of months, even with the side sleeper and then started sleeping in the crib, and finally they were forced out of their own bedroom. He only sleeps well alone! I guess he didn't read the books about how great it is to share a bed with your mom and dad. She is also very structured with her breastfeeding, feeding on demand for the first couple of months and then working deliberately to build a very predictable rhythm. Neither of her kids was offered the option of demanding milk on their own after the first few months, it always came at the time that mom thought best. DD was weaned at 21 months, we'll see about DS. My thoughts: they are her children, she makes the decisions. Her approach seems to work well, they are both happy, healthy, bright and developing as they should.
I think waldorf used to be much more rigid about the extended bf than they are now, but it probably varies by school.
Good luck sorting it all out.