Originally Posted by Deborah
Sounds like she is emphasizing a beautiful, peaceful atmosphere over a live classroom with real children playing in it..
I think this is a pretty accurate portrayal of the impression I've been getting.
I mean, if this lady were a babysitter I'd be delighted. She's this warm, gentle grandmotherly figure who keeps order while maintaining respect for the kids.
But other than modeling a gentle nature for the kids, I'm not really sure if there is any teaching going on at all. Of any sort, that I can identify. I understand that Waldorf is nonacademic at this age. And I did raise that issue when we interviewed - whether dd would be adequately stimulated in such an environment. She answered that the imaginative play, story telling, dance and such would keep her engaged.
But the way it's set up, I feel as though I'm keeping dd home in the backyard day after day, only without enough toys or activities to keep her interested.
I wonder if there's more going on behind the scenes than what I see. Positive things, I mean. Who knows, though, because this teacher doesn't allow parents to observe in the classroom except by way of watching over the top of the privacy fence and pick up and drop off. She says it alters the environment too much.
Today dd asked me if I could send her to a different school. The only other time she's ever done that was when she had that psycho teacher who was mentally abusing her. I asked dd what things did she like about school and she said 'nothing'. I asked what she didn't like and she said 'the kids and the teacher'.
Dd's so sensitive to negativity or disapproval. If I even have a tired sound to my voice when speaking to her she'll start to cry. I'm wondering if she's probably started to have some oppositional behavior with the teacher, out of boredom and frustration, and that the teacher's reaction is making dd feel rejected and hurt. To the point where it's hard for dd to find positives in the class anymore: she's bored with the activities, so she's acting out, so teachers aren't liking her, so she feels like an outcast.
A couple of weeks ago I picked her up and she had a bump on her head. She told me that she climbed the fence and fell off. She said she climbed to the top, teacher saw her and said to get down, and in her hurry to comply her shoe got caught on the top rungs. She fell and her shoe was left stuck on top of the fence. The teacher affirmed that this is exactly what happened.
I was laughing, because it was a cute story. Dd climbs any and everything around our house, with our approval. She's very careful and has great judgment, so we don't put artificial constraints on her. The only reason she fell this time was because of her hurry to get down so fast because teacher was upset with her.
So I told dd that was a funny story, but now she knows that there's no climbing on the fence. And dd nodded. She doesn't do things we've asked her not to do. But teacher was obviously stressed and upset and saw the situation very differently. I think it freaked her out because this fence is about six feet tall (we have to stand on rocks they've set up for us to see over the top when looking in), and dd was already on top of it. Maybe she thought dd was escaping or something.
Anyway, nothing like that has happened again, but I felt like things changed a little bit that day.
Well, I'm really rambling now. Thanks if you've hung in this far.