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Thinking of you Organicbanana and naturalbeauty!
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Go go go -- OrganicBanana and Natural Beauty! I can't wait to hear about your beautiful babies! I concur that it is a little ... well, sad isn't the word, but bittersweet that the last of our June mamas are birthing ....

Things are good here. We've been blessed with a number of meals too -- it all seems very midwestern to me (in a nice way)! When ds #1 was born we lived in NJ and although we got our share of visitors it was such an ordeal for most people to get there (going through the tunnels and/or taking public transportation) that I don't think anyone even considered bringing us food! Am holding off on the debut trip to the supermarket with two kids-- I can't even imagine it at present.

Good luck with mom, Pepper -- I've been glad to have the help too although I do miss my "space."
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Melissa, do you have grocery delivery service near you? I loooooove my Peapod service.
www.peapod.com

Pepper, good luck with your mom...it's inlaw weekend here, I'm already stressed out over it.

Have any of you guys experienced a total & utter lack of appetite? I have to force myself to eat every day, because I don't want to screw with milk production, but I seriously have had zero appetite since he was born. my body burning off the fat reserves, maybe? :
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emmy - yep!

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i had noooooooooo appetite postpartum. i thot it was weird, thot bfing was sposed to make you real hunger? my appetite at almost 6wks pp is more normal now.
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nope. i've been an eating machine. i'm loving food and am eating a lot. and the best part?

....NO FREAKING HEARTBURN!!!!

dear heartburn,

you sucked in a big way. you woke me up at night and totally interfered with my eating preferences. You were my worst pregnancy symptom by far. So, as Scandal said, "GOODBYE TO YOU!" Don't let the stomach hit you on the way out.

(hey, at least it's an improvement from the letter I wrote to my hemmorhoids, right?! )
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This is James, Jamie's dh. Just a quick note to let everyone know that Logan Rayne Garvin is here. He was taken via c-section this morning at 5:15. Both he and Jamie are doing fine. I'll let jamie post a full message when she gets home.

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Congratulations NaturalBeauty!!!
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Congrats Jamie!!! Glad to hear you are both doing well!
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WOW another baby! Its almost over and we will all be mommas! It is kind of sad! Its like watching your baby grow up! Of course those mommas having babies don't think its so sad! :LOL

DH was driving me last night! He complained because there was no bread tie on the bread! OMG put one on it! : WOW hope hes in a better mood tonight!

Well I am taking DS and DD tomorrow for photos! I am getting one of Nolan and one of him and Ali together! I think that will be so cute! I have to get a photo on the wall of him! Its strange that there are no photos anywhere but the fridge of him!

We did the handprint kit with the kids last night! DD got back into the trash and painted her lips with the blue paint! I guess she needs a little finger paint time!

I would like to leave DS alone! I didn't feel pushed by him he did let me decide what to do. He expressed his interest in retracting it but didn't tell me I had to do what he wanted. I would definitly suggest mentioning this to your ped before they get involved in checking them out! I can picture that he may not have asked me if I hadn't brought it up. I may have just heard my son screaming and wondered what had happened!

Well hoping to hear about more births! I will check back soon! Hope all those babies are doing great and getting fat!
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Congrats Jamie! can't wait to hear the story.

Hehe.. I've been checking in like crazy today waiting for NB and o'banana to share some news! One down; one to go!
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Congrats Jamie! can't wait to hear the story.

Hehe.. I've been checking in like crazy today waiting for NB and o'banana to share some news! One down; one to go!


Ditto!! Congratulations, Jamie!
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good luck to natural beauty and organicB.- it is nice to know that you won't be reading this for a while!
This little one doesn't do the slurp, at the finish, she turns into the little wolf and shakes her head with a vengance, I try again in case it is the grand finale- if it is, her head lays to sleep- if not, I call a burp break and try it again.
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two girls and another on the way in feburary!
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oops, I missed a whole page of posts- I guess that I should say "congratulations!!"

Goodbye June, July is here (for real now.)
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two girls and another on the way in feburary!
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mcs, you have a wolf, I have a little chicken
He peck peck pecks before he latches, the peck peck pecks at the end. We call him Mr. Chicken.
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:LOL mcs, when elaina does the shaking of the head back and forth really fast, we call it her superroot!

when she does the peckpeckpeck thing, as she does if she's upright against our chest and rooting, we call it woodpeckering

what's amazing is that if she does the superroot right next to my breast she can ofter latch on perfectly without me helping!
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Yeah! More babies!!!!

Is anybody wlse out there having as horrendous a time breastfeeding as I am???
Titus just will not latch, his suck is poor even with a shield or just with a finger in his mouth. After some random success things seem to be settling into a pattern: try and latch, fail, use shield, suppliment with tube/sringe and pumped milk (I have TONS).
Yesterday was my day to cry and be in despair over it. Poor dh dealing with an entire crying family, he didn't know who to help first!

We've seen a couple LC's and they were great, really encouraging me to keep trying, which I am, and they say I'm doing everything right and there's nothing wrong with my boobs....
It's just so dissapointing because I can't just whip out a boob to feed like I'd imagined. He's getting plenty of food (after losing 17 oz) and is gaining weight.
Of course I am not giving up yet, it's still early, I just didn't expect it to be so hard.
I keep telling myself that even if he is a bottle-with-breastmilk-only baby, he will still grow happy and strong.
I guess I just kind of feel like a failure sometimes:
Got the epidural I didn't want, can't figure out breastfeeding, and don't get me started on cloth diapers...they seem so tricky!

Today I am coping better though as I got 5 hours of sleep last night!!! The most since his birth.

OK, gotta go.

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Congratulations Jamie! Welcome baby Logan

Grace, You're doing everything you can - I hope it gets easier for you and Titus
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Pepper, I positively adore you!! :LOL :LOL You crack me up........



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nope. i've been an eating machine. i'm loving food and am eating a lot. and the best part?

....NO FREAKING HEARTBURN!!!!

dear heartburn,

you sucked in a big way. you woke me up at night and totally interfered with my eating preferences. You were my worst pregnancy symptom by far. So, as Scandal said, "GOODBYE TO YOU!" Don't let the stomach hit you on the way out.

(hey, at least it's an improvement from the letter I wrote to my hemmorhoids, right?! )
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Congrats Jamie........!!!!

ds does the bob and weave...sniff and root, sniff and root, kinda like a dog with a bone :LOL He will stick his tongue out and taste it to make sure it's really there and then grab and latch pretty much on his own.

Grace, all I can say is, breastfeeding has always been pure torture the first 10-14 days for us. I did all the right things and it still hurt like hell, my nipples had blood blisters, and I was engorged with a screaming nborn in my lap. Milk shooting everywhere and couldn't get it in the babies mouth. One day we would just wake up and one side wouldn't be so bad, and then a couple of days later the other side wouldn't be so bad. It has always taken about 2.5 weeks for my milk supply to settle down so that my boobs were softer. Don't give up if it's what your heart wants............you can do it!!
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Grace, I had a really hard time with bfing in the beginning. It has gotten easier, but it's still not as easy as i thought it'd be. Try t get to a LLL meeting if you can, or talk to a friend you trust who has successfully bf'ed. If I didn't have my best friend, I'd have switched to formula the first week. no kidding. Now we're in a growth spurt and it's challenging again. Just when it was starting to feel okay Don't give up, cry when you want to, sleep when you can, and take care of yourself as much as you can. You won't be too excited about bfing or anything else if you haven't had a shower in three days and you smell of brest milk :LOL

Oh, and I'm having some CD issues, too. Again, my Lianne is helping :LOL

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I guess I forgot to add that bfeeding isnever Completely easy all the time. You will have things to deal with off and on. Like growth spurts, teething, etc.

It's just so rewarding when they get to be around 4 months old and they suddenly stop nursing midstream and look up at you and grin, with their tongue still wrapped around your nipple....It is priceless and makes it all worth it.

Okay, now I'm getting all sappy!!
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yes Grace - if you can LLL would be a great help. They can provide support and hands on help. It might be hard to get out of the house right now but LLL would be a safe haven..

Clare had her 1st outing last night. We went out for ice-cream. It was fun but everything seemed so busy, bright, loud, annoying. I couldn't wait to get back home. must be the sleep deprivation making things seem that way.

PS. her cord fell off at 5 days old. that was so early!
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Dd's cord fell off at 2 days pp IT was bad on her, it left a hole in her belly.

Ds's cord fell off at 4 days or so, it was okay and completely closed up! Hooray!
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wow, that IS early, bama.

nanner? you out there? I resereved a spot for you on the birth announcement thread

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Grace- Hang in there... it seems we are having the exact same issues right now... My problem is that Rhiannon actually has a GREAT latch but gets frustrated b/c the BM doesn;t come as quickly as the formula. I am trying so hard with her, but as you know, when they are screaming in hunger and your hormones are still crazy, you will do anything to feed that baby.

We went to the lactation consulation yesterday. Finally got her to stay on with a nipple sheild. all afternoon she nursed like a champ. then last night, boom, nothing was coming, and she was screaming so i gave in to the formula again. I tried again this morning and she took the breast wihtout the nipple sheild for about 10 mins. And i've been pumping last night and today and getting nothing! well, i mean scant amounts of milk compared to my usual 1oz/20 min pump. i KNOW that i will not be satan if i even have to go to the drastic measure of formula only, but the guilt i have is crazy. i will keep on pumping and trying guys! y'all help me out here!

and yes the cloth diapers are cool yet tricky. we are on sposie/cloth combo right now.

oooh... did anyone read the letter from peggy in this month's mothering? it made me feel better and made me realize i'm not the world's worst mom.

so anyhoo.... i'm sitting here in my brand new Bravado bra (1/2 off at the LC office!) with both flaps open, my boobs waving in the breeze, trying to air out my nipples. if this isn't a new mama indicator i don't know what is.

Writer, teacher, and mama to Rhiannon Morningstar 6/28/05
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Abby's cord fell off at 4 days. There was a little blood but it wasn't too bad. My parents are here, it's great! I went to a really funky consignment store in the neighborhood, it has piles of stuff - pretty disorganized. I put Abby in a bouncy seat for the first time, and she sat in it for 45 minutes. Of course, I bought it. :LOL Took it home and started getting buyers regret, looked it up and I paid only $4 less than retail. Grrr. I am a research-a-holic before I buy anything, its hard for me to make a spur of the moment purchase, but regret aside Abby has fallen asleep in it twice and I can actually get a few things done around the house. I feel like I am failing AP 101...just kidding!

Wow this is the most time I've had on the computer since I was pg. The bouncy seat plays mozart so at least it's not totally obnoxious!
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...love yourselves and love your babies! If they are using a bouncy seat or are in disposable diapers, are formula fed...just try to laugh about how unpredictable birth, breasts, and babies are! How wonderful that we all are wanting to do the harder and better thing, whether that is birthing our babies without drugs or hanging those cloth diapers out on the line or carrying our sweeties around in a sling and preparing nutritious food one-handed or playing Candyland (again) with our preschoolers instead of parking them in front of the tv. But, sweet sweet mamas...please be gentle and loving to yourselves as you face the crazy unpredictability of life with a newborn.

I've been having marital difficulties, so have been on my own this week with the three kids. Today, I felt like I was going to dissolve into unmanagable tears (usually only do this in the night when kids are all asleep) when I only had four hours of very interrupted sleep, baby was screaming even though she had a full belly and a clean diaper and had been burped, I was still in my PJs (which is unbearable, since I am still waking up in hormonal sweats and still having lochia issues that make me LONG for a shower first thing in the morning), and big kids were begging for a video. At times like these, I put those high and falutin' standards on a big ole' shelf and simply do the following:

LOVE MYSELF AND LOVE MY BABY (AND BIG KIDS).

Hope all you wonderful mamas are finding ways to do the same, regardless of what kind of diaper is covering baby's bum and how baby is getting milk.

ps. kids very much enjoyed the Popeye video and baby finally settled down, and yes, I did get that postpartum 3 1/2- minute shower!
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thanks for those words barbara. Elaina is having a very cranky day and I needed to hear something good. I'm sorry you're having troubles with your husband.
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...love yourselves and love your babies! If they are using a bouncy seat or are in disposable diapers, are formula fed...just try to laugh about how unpredictable birth, breasts, and babies are! How wonderful that we all are wanting to do the harder and better thing, whether that is birthing our babies without drugs or hanging those cloth diapers out on the line or carrying our sweeties around in a sling and preparing nutritious food one-handed or playing Candyland (again) with our preschoolers instead of parking them in front of the tv. But, sweet sweet mamas...please be gentle and loving to yourselves as you face the crazy unpredictability of life with a newborn.

I've been having marital difficulties, so have been on my own this week with the three kids. Today, I felt like I was going to dissolve into unmanagable tears (usually only do this in the night when kids are all asleep) when I only had four hours of very interrupted sleep, baby was screaming even though she had a full belly and a clean diaper and had been burped, I was still in my PJs (which is unbearable, since I am still waking up in hormonal sweats and still having lochia issues that make me LONG for a shower first thing in the morning), and big kids were begging for a video. At times like these, I put those high and falutin' standards on a big ole' shelf and simply do the following:

LOVE MYSELF AND LOVE MY BABY (AND BIG KIDS).

Hope all you wonderful mamas are finding ways to do the same, regardless of what kind of diaper is covering baby's bum and how baby is getting milk.

ps. kids very much enjoyed the Popeye video and baby finally settled down, and yes, I did get that postpartum 3 1/2- minute shower!


Thank you, Barbara, for those words of wisdom. I think especially for the first-time mamas it can be so hard when you think you will be able to do something in a certain way and it doesn't turn out the way you think or turns into a very difficult challenge. The first thing we do is to feel guilty (or in my case, even self-hatred) at what we perceive to be our inadequacy as parents - NOT TRUE!

I had a horrible time learning to bf my firstborn. Oh, the nipple pain was just unbearable - I cried through every excrutiating feeding and gave up after only a month . It was the best I could do with the knowledge I had at the time I felt such guilt and despair over how I failed him...but I decided to nurse with a bottle and every feeding had skin to skin, cuddles, kisses, closeness...he was so loved and always had warm and tender feedings. I know we all want so badly to give our babies the best but as Barbara said, be gentle with yourselves...

I'm sorry you are having a tough week, Barbara
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Things are so so different with #2. with dd I never got anything done because I didn't want her to cry, or I felt guilty when she did. Dh was mad all the time because the house was awful,, and I didnt know what to do.

A friend talked to me about being able to put her down and know that she was alright, and showed me how to do stuff in tiny increments, so that she didnt cry for long. BTW she hated the sling.


With this baby, I sometimes have to put him down, and sometimes he does cry. I hate it, but dd is still a baby too, and I am still figuring out how to balance taking care of two of them.

This may make me sound horrible, but please realize that if they are truly upset, we don't leave them to cry it out, we hold them while they cry. This holds true in the middle of the night as well.
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