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Originally Posted by DoulaMommy
yes, but shes a homebirth midwife. I personally wouldnt expect it from any hospital midwives,..nak
Originally Posted by beansavi
I had this same issue with my midwife with my last pregnancy (and I'm preggers again and working with her for this one, too, so I wonder about this subject, myself).
After the hospital birth of my daughter, my midwife called the next day (I was still in the hospital) and then I never heard from her again. (She is also a homebirth midwife and beloved in the community, for sure). I did see her at the six week check up, and I had called her for dd having reflux in the first months of life, but she never contacted me after the birth, which I think contributed to my postpartum depression--I was grieving for her (but I know this was not the exclusive reason for the depression), now that I look back.
I think that midwives definitely understand the importance of the emotional connection between women--and its significance in the outcomes and health of mama and baby. SO... I think connecting in the postpartum period is just as needed.
I DO understand they are busy with other births, prenatal visits, etc. but I would like to see the midwifery model of care extend into the 6 weeks postpartum period.
The six weeks (or 40 days: a deliberate, sacred number) is a very holy, sensitive and precious time. As a woman, having made a connection with a midwife for nine months and birthing with her (at home or in the hospital) is a very intimite experience that we share with them.
Everybody wants to be contacted "the morning after" an intimite experience and every woman needs to know it is not just "over" / less important to the midwife after the baby is out!!!
Don't devalue your feelings. Postpartum hormones or not, your heart has made an intimite connection with another human being, during a holy period in your life, and your feelings are totally natural.
Blessings to you and your sweet family,
Mama to A (12), Z (11), H (9), C (5), A (3) and 4 angels.
Originally Posted by veggiekicks
I was very blessed. After my homebirth, my midwives called at 12 hours, visited at 24, came back at day 3, day 5, day 7, day 10, 2 weeks, 3 weeks and then I went to her for my 6 week pp exam. She also made it very clear that she was on call to me during that entire time.