My dh was AMAZING during the week before Coren was born and the week after. He cooked, he cleaned, he brought me food and drink, he took the kids hiking, to the park and to the library, he kept the house in order and had the kids clean up after themselves. Then, as soon as I started getting up and about (I purposefully didn't get out of bed much for the first week!!!) he went back to his old ways of having to be asked to do everything - including things that are his responsiblity. It's driving me insane. The other day I asked him why he could run the household (minus the finances) on his own during those two weeks and why he can't now. He said it's because he wasn't working during that first week (sorry dear, you went back to work when Coren was 5 days old and managed for the rest of the week ... and you WERE working during the week before his birth!) and now that he has to work, he's too tired and needs "down time". How is 3 hours of "down time" in front of the computer every night, staying up until 2am, going to help him not be tired (he gets up with the kids between 5 and 6!) and why is it that he can't do a load of laundry or two during that time ... or bring his dishes to the sink when he's done ... or load/unload the dishwasher every other night?
I have 4 children to take care of, 3 who are nursing, 3 who I'm homeschooling. We have activities and classes to go to almost every day. We have playdates, errands, projects, appointments, meetings, etc. I started taking the kids to all our events starting when Coren was 8 days old!
What amuses me, though, is that BECAUSE I've been doing so much so soon and because I'm overdoing it most days, I'm still bleeding - so dh can't get what he wants most!
:LOL I'll have to suggest to him that if he starts living up to his responsibilities and takes some weight off my shoulders that he might get what he wants a lot sooner than if he doesn't!
Dh isn't all bad though ... he's absolutely in love with his newest son - I LOVE watching him hold, cuddle, dance with and talk to Coren! He IS such a good Daddy. It drives me a bit nutty that the child-like qualities my dh has that make him such a good Daddy are the same ones that get him into trouble as a husband!