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#1 of 24 Old 11-04-2005, 06:52 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Today we found out that Ryland's headstone was finally installed. So, I went up to see it and put the silk flowers there (and take home the pumpkin, mums, and stuffed animal that we had there marking his spot. I just got back from the cemetary. Oh my gosh, I barely made it there...just before I got there, the new Third Day song came on the radio, and that always makes me teary eyed. But this time I just lost it, and I wasn't doing so well at the cemetary. I was right..seeing the headstone would finally make it very very very real. Too real. The headstone is absolutely beautiful though...I decorated it with the flowers. It's just really hard to see your son's name written in brass on the ground. Noone should ever see those things...

For those that want to see, here are the pictures... I wanted you ladies to see them since so many of you helped us to be able to buy this for Ryland...we would not have been able to get this for him without you... Thank you so much to those of you who helped us to buy this for Ryland...it is absolutely gorgeous and a perfect memorial for our little angel. So thank you...

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v1...headstone4.jpg

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v1...headstone3.jpg

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v1...headstone2.jpg

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v1...headstone1.jpg

~Brandon Michael (11/23/03), Jocelyn Lily Nữ (2/4/07, adopted 5/28/07 from Vietnam), Amelia Rylie (1/14/09), & Ryland Josef William (9/7/05-9/7/05 @ 41 wks). 
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Oh, mama. It's beautiful. Hugs to you.
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Ally, it's beautiful.

I'm so, so sorry for your loss .. I've been gone since dh passed away, I didn't know. **hugs to you**
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Its beautiful.
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I had the same experience when my son's grave got the headstone. It makes it so much more final.
To this day, (8 years later) I can barely stand to look at the pictures.
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Ally, it really is lovely. I can't believe it's been 2 months already. It seems just yesterday. Much love, mama.

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((hugs)) to you momma.
The headstone is a beautiful.
I'm so sorry for your loss.

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It is healthy that you cried mama. I would have too. I dont know how these situations are handled. I hope I nver have to find out. You parents are so strong. My heart really goes out to you mama.

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It's perfect. I love the bear. I'm so sorry mama

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Hugs to you and thank you for sharing the photos. I also love the bear.
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Ally. It's beautiful!
I'm still thinking about you and your family and praying for you every day.

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Oh Ally, I wish I could give you a IRL hug right now. Its beautiful! I pray for strength and peace for your family every night.
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Glad that it is all finished. It looks so nice! Blessings to you.
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it's beautiful.
i don't know what to say.

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Ally, How beautiful! I hope in some way it brings some closure and healing. I'm thinking of you.
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It's beautiful. I pray you have continued peace and healing. So many songs still make me cry, especially the songs that were playing back when my db died so I understand how the TD song would make you cry.
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I'm so sorry Ally. Thank you for sharing the photos.
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still thinking of you all the time! Its beautiful.

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That is beautiful. I am so sorry for your loss.

And that is a beautiful song.

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: Ally, how beautiful! What a wonderful 'memory-place.'

-Ziva, wife to Ezra the scribe : , Elisha 1/7/02, and baby Akiva 9/11/05.
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I love the bear! Its beautiful.

Mama

Its so upsetting, I don't know what to say. Its beautiful and sad and scary all at the same time.
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It's very beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
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It's beautiful. Much love, mama...

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My dd was born 9/7. I think about you and your baby a lot.
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