I am Jeni, married to Rob for 7 1/2 yrs, and we have 2 daughters, Grace (5) and Lily (2). Rob is a computer guy, programming mostly with this current job, and I stay at home with the girls, homeschool Grace, and do Mary Kay when I have time. I am also in choir at church, and involved in MOPS. I look like a suburban soccer mom, but Im a crunchy cosleeping, extended nursing, homebirthing mama. I recently dyed my hair burgundy and bought my first pair of combat boots, so I am perhaps looking a little less mainstream than I have in the past.
Grace was born with no medication in a hospital with an OB after an 18 hr labor. She was sunny side up, so I had back labor with her. My DH wanted me to have her at home, but I was too scared, and the nearest midwife lived more than 90 minutes away. I did not even try to cloth diaper Grace, and she is only partially vaxed, we stopped at age 3. We
cosleeping, and Grace weaned at 31 months when I was 6 months pregnant with Lily.
When we moved to NC, I was 4 months pregnant with Lily. I went to a LLL meeting and asked around for midwife recommendations, and was referred to a woman who went to my church! Lily was born at home in a birthing pool after about 3 1/2 hrs of labor. Grace was around but not in the room when Lily was born. I cloth diapered Lily for about 6 months, and Lily is unvaxed. Lily continues to nurse, but I lost my milk at 4 1/2 months with her, so I anticipate losing my milk around the same time with this baby. I am not opposed to tandeming, but I dont think Lily will keep with it.
Grace and Lily are both spirited, Grace is more dramatic/sensitive/has food and clothing aversions, and Lily is just very loud and intense. Grace has the more high need personality, but Lily is more like her than her opposite. Lily continues to have some serious sleep issues, and my husband has taken over nighttime parenting with her while I am exhausted and feeling puny here in my first trimester. Thank you DH!
I am looking forward to life with 3. We want a large family, so I feel like we are just getting started!
A huge long rabbit trail tangent:
After this babe, we plan to adopt before we have another biological child. I had wanted to adopt instead of getting pregnant this time, but someone had other plans! So I am anxious to meet this little one, but also anxious to meet whoever God has for us in the US or internationally. I had a prophetic dream (what I call a dream when you wake up and are very certain you have been "told" something) not too long before I got pregnant, about adopting. My husband's late grandmother, who is my ideal of an exemplary southern woman and was an amazingly faithful, good, decent, wise woman... showed up in a dream and told Rob and I to go get our daughter that someone else had been raising for 2 yrs. We went to the location grandmother sent us to, and a woman was guardian to 3 little girls, the youngest was "ours". It was very surreal, and when I woke up, I felt so certain that there is a child out there who belongs to us.