swelling...ah the joy of being pregnant in July!
I had very little swelling last pregnancy and none with my second...my first however was unbelieveable and that was an October baby too
I find drinking lots of water, getting off my feet at the end of the day and elevating them and lemon or lime in my water also helps...my hands are tight this morning.
Thanks for all the hugs ladies. My dd decided in January to move in with her father...he lives in the town we used to live in 20min drive away...she has never given up the idea of living back there so off she goes the minute she turns 14...of course her dad(major addict) goes back to drugs, seh can't live with him and ends up at my brother's so we don't have to switch schools...of course this also is a terrible mistake, my SIL is the messiest person in the world they are constantly fighting, my dd is babysittingall the time, once they even left her with the 2 kids to go to Toronto, 2 hours away overnight...I was livid..it's too much. my SIL has no idea of what's appropriate for a 14 year old girl as she was sexually active and pretty free and wild at 12 and sees nothing wrong with that. I believe she actually gave her alcohol and such.
So finally she fails every class in school and I go pick her up and bring her home....I do get my brother and ex on side that she has to come live with me...her dad is so wishy washy though, now he is saying she can live with him in September and go back to the same school where she just failed...I don't think so.
There is also the matter of the crowd she hangs with...all high school drop outs at 14, there is violence, drugs...I would bet they are the lowest dregs of the teenage culture in that city...I feel she's in danger. She keeps threatening to run away to Toronto...well she has a friend there and I keep trying to keep her away from him...I don't want her to have any connection to Toronto but my SIL and her Dad keep allowing her to see him....her dad was supposed to be watching her on MOnday and let her go for a walk whree they meet up with this kid...16 year old drop out who has a LOT of money but no job...scary! So far she is drug free but I am really concerned.
So I am trying to keep her close to home and we are actually considering moving to Newfoundland back to our home town...it's smaller and we could live there very cheap...I wouldn't see DH as much but he could still be home every 2 or 3 weeks and I would have family to help. It's a consideration that's for sure. It's such a small town and every activity for kids revolves around the school....so I think she would have a shot at an education...the sad thing...she's highly intelligent and tested gifted as a child.
But the baby is due in October, I can't imagine having a hospital birth, my home town is an island connected by a ferry..no Dr. just a nurse(which might be ok) but women generally go away before their due dates to have baby...I can't imagine doing that. School starts in September. I am thinking maybe I should go down, get the older kids settled in school and sell this house after...there is a lot of cheap property down there so that's not a problem.
For me it's a safety issue...I feel like she's in danger kwim. She's not street savvy at all...she's 14 for crying out loud. I can't seem to get things settled with her as her dad keeps going against everything I say...he has no rights(I have sole custody) however she's 14 and can choose where she lives.
It's so stressful..
Thankfully my 11 year old seems to be ok so far...her friends are a different sort...and she's just a different kid.
It's so difficult raising children...in a city...this day and age...values get all screwed up and you wonder if they have taken anything you have taught them in.
Anyway my DH is really worried about me and baby...I know he is stressed about me. But baby seems fine...very very active these days and that makes me happy.
Take care everybody...sorry for the long post but it sure helps to get it out!