Note, I know not everyone here is a Christian. When you see pray, substitute positive thoughts or vibes or whatever
its really late, Im really tired, and I dont want to edit my post so thoroughly!!!!
My husband and I are taking a young friend of ours in who has been kicked out of her parents house. She was raised in our town by her paternal grandparents for 15 years, and has spent the last year moving from their house to her moms house and then to her dad's house. She has no desire to live with her grandparents again, and she is now 18. Since we have been her friends, and a positive influence on her in the past, she has asked if we can take her in for a while.
I am 9 weeks from my due date.
We are very clear on our young friend's past, and her tendancies toward disregard for rules, disrespect of her grandparents, things like that. Most of her behaviour she has told me in confidence as a friend, and some of my info comes from her best friend, our favorite baysitter and also a friend of mine. We trust her enough that she has babysat our children very often in the last 3 years. The reality of her living with us is quite another thing. We feel very much at peace with the fact that God wishes for us to shelter her, even though it looks like a really bad time to be taking on an 18 yr old living with us.
Please think of us as we pray through this transition, seek counsel from friends and church members, and please please pray for Lynn's heart to be softened, for her to receive our rules with understanding, and for the reality of the words I told her as I spoke to her tonight... that she will be treated just likea member of our family... that we will be expecting the same behaviour out of her as we would our own children, if they were 18. And that she will need to be mindful of setting a good example for our young children. Not just in teenage behaviour, but in speaking to me with respect, to obeying our rules because we are the parents that live here, etc.
I think Lynn's ideal situation would be to crash at our place for a few weeks and then find a single college age friend to get an apartment with and continue to live her life in an undisciplined fashion. Our hope is that in whatever time she is with us, we can help to shape her character a little more and to better equip her to be on her own once she can be on her own. I love Lynn, but she has the emotional maturity of a 14 yr old, and though it is not her fault, it does not help her in making good choices when left to her own devices. She has come to me in confidence, asking for advice, time and time again, and I was the first person she told that she lost her virginity and how she was feeling and stuff. If she lives in my house, I am going to do what I can to guide her, and I would assume she expects that from me.
Thanks. Im just rambling, but I wanted to get some people praying for this situation!