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#1 of 9 Old 09-07-2005, 07:51 PM - Thread Starter
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How many are planning to do it? What are (will be) the children's ages?

How many have already done it? Any advice for the novices?

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Sophia is 26 mos old and we will be tandem nursing...it's the first time..I didn't tandem my older girls
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My toddler (almost three) is still nursing! She doesn't get much milk and uses it mostly for comfort, but she sure is attached to the breast. I'm glad she'll be getting more good milk soon! it will be so good for her. I don't think she'll nurse a lot (porbably not more than three times a day), but I could be wrong!

I have never tandem nursed before and this will be our fourth baby. I'm planning to let the baby nurse first at a nursing session, and let the toddler nurse afterwards whenever she wants to. I'm also prepared for the possibility that it could be uncomfortable, and the toddler will get cut off! I have heard that some women find tandem nursing a bit unpleasant because of the differences in sucking patterns, and it just kind of wears a woman's breasts and patience out. But I think for the majority, it works great! I think that like everything connected to nursing, it will take adjustment.

Sometimes the older child stops wanting to nurse when the milk really comes in, too, seeing it as a baby thing, or because the older child does not like the taste. Impossible to predict. I'm really curious what my toddler will do. I'm really curious how I will like tandem nursing.

Good luck with your tandem nursing. I'll be interested to hear how others are doing with it, after all our babies are born!
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Eva will be about 25 months (give or take a few days or weeks) when the baby gets here.

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Did it twice. Not interested in doing it again. There were good points & bad points, overall the experience was more stressful than anything for me. But I'm not a child-led weaner (well, I didn't plan to be . . . don't ask!) My youngest weaned at 29 months when the milk dried up, we talk about how mommy will nurse the baby - Dr. Sears book is great (what baby needs) we read that at least once a week right now.

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Linda will be 20 or 21 months when the new one gets here. Bobbie was 22.5 months when Linda was born. I didn't wean her until I got pregnant with this new one, just couldn't take the idea of tandem nursing through a pregnancy. And since she was only a week before her third birthday at the time, I felt OK with it. I'd wanted to nurse her til 3 anyway, & hope to go that long with Linda as well.

I was unable to stop myself from mooing a few times while nursing both girls, but that's just my strange sense of humor. I did not always nurse Linda first. Sometimes I'd nurse Bobbie first, so I could make sure Linda got the hindmilk. Sometimes I'd nurse Bobbie first to take the edge off near-engorgement. I also nursed her pretty often in between nursings of Linda so I could get my supply up. Worked quite well.

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I tandemed after Atticus was born, and the older nursling has since weaned, so he's a solo nursling now. I will tandem with this baby too. I found that it was very helpful for resting and jealousy issues.
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Ds is almost 3 and is still nursing 10 times a day. I have night weaned him though, so hopefully it sticks!
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I started out this pregnancy tandem nursing my 4yo and then 19 month old, but they have both weaned. Ds weaned shortly after I found out I was pregnant (and probably would have whether I was pregnant or not - he was down to every few weeks) and dd weaned in July. Or maybe not - she has asked to nurse a couple of times, but has only given a few quick sucks. She says she will nurse when the baby comes, but we'll see what happens.

Tandemnursing was both rewarding and frustrating at times last time around. The early days were tough, especially when older ds was waking more to nurse at night than the baby - and trying to discourage it would result in a screaming meltdown that would also wake up the baby, so I'd have two kids needing the breast! It definitely got better when dd was about 6 months old and ds was 3 and we night weaned. Also, IME, physically nursing at the same time was an awful sensation, and just technically hard to do with a newborn who needed a lot of support and help positioning. I almost never nursed both at the same time - thankfully ds was a very verbal 2 yo, who could understand that he needed to wait his turn (unless I was asking himto wait in the middle of the night :LOL).
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