I did know that someone would take what I said wrong, but that's fine. As I said in both my OP and a follow up, I hoped there was just another reason neither she or her dh were holding the babies. I didn't hold my boys 24/7 either, they were held by dad or others. It was just a gut reaction to seeing her with her babies for the first time and not having a parent hold either of them. And while I could not afford a nanny I doubt that I would ever have one even if I could especially if I was home with them, but then again that is a personal choice we all have to make.
I try very hard not to judge other mothers that I see, I might make a snap reaction but upon more thought I realize that there are SO many things that can come in to play. And I guess I WAS holding her up to a higher standard. But only because that is the standard she seemed to set for herself, in all the pre-baby interviews. She said she was not going to work, and she surely does not have to, I never said she should NOT work she is the one who said she could not bring herself to be away from her babies. She also did seem very AP/earthy/crunchy and when I saw the photos and thought, wow that is odd, I thought for sure she would not hire a nanny, I mean she won't even use a cleaning service for her house. She did look very worn to me in the photos, like she was having a rough time. Who knows she could have post partum depression.
So now I am not upset about being slammed, just like joesmom said we all have our opinions, and while my reaction to the pictures might not be correct, I cannot help that that is how I reacted, kwim?
We may not have it all together, but together we have it all