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#1 of 8 Old 03-11-2008, 01:03 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I've caught most of 1 episode & the end of another. It makes me sad & happy at the same time. Anybody want to discuss?
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Yeah, I watched an episode (the chef episode) the other night at DH's suggestion. I felt kind of icky about it, but am not sure I can articulate why. Maybe it's just that it seems to fuel the fire of SAHM/WOHM choices, and exaggerates both extremes.

I came here looking for a thread on it to see what others thought.

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I watched the first one. I hated it. Absolutely LOATHED it. I felt like it minimized the job of a SAHM and it made it seem like the job of a SAHM is insignificant compared to the "dreams" you have before becoming one. I haven't watched again because it made me physically ill. I felt sad for the little 1 1/2 year old whose mommy felt it was more important to chase her "career dream" than to stay home and raise her kids.
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I can't stand it. It just irks me to no end. I feel like it makes it sound like they gave up so much to stay home with their kids and how sad it is. I'm ALL FOR working moms AND stay at home moms but the show just rubs me the WRONG way.

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I'll probably be flamed so much for this, I'll be a roasted tomato!

While I understand that some mothers have to work due to their financial situation, I do not believe that following ones "dreams" trumps the welfare of your children. For nursing age babies and toddlers (which would include the 1 1/2 year old), I believe that the most important priority is being with them. I think our culture puts WAY too much emphasis on selfish, "me"-centeredness.

What I dislike about the show is the "sad, boo hoo, bittersweet" music they play when the mother decides to stay at home.

What I LIKE about the show is that they show women as multi-faceted, that SAHMs have many interesting and exciting layers to them. I think we get pigeon holed a bit, stereotyped.
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I'll probably be flamed so much for this, I'll be a roasted tomato!

While I understand that some mothers have to work due to their financial situation, I do not believe that following ones "dreams" trumps the welfare of your children. For nursing age babies and toddlers (which would include the 1 1/2 year old), I believe that the most important priority is being with them. I think our culture puts WAY too much emphasis on selfish, "me"-centeredness.

What I dislike about the show is the "sad, boo hoo, bittersweet" music they play when the mother decides to stay at home.

What I LIKE about the show is that they show women as multi-faceted, that SAHMs have many interesting and exciting layers to them. I think we get pigeon holed a bit, stereotyped.
A roasted tomato. I agree with everything you said. Great points!

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I'm going to say that I haven't seen the show, but when I found out that they make the family think mama is out at a spa, and in reality she's off chasing her dream, THAT I have a problem with. The deception. This is why I won't watch that show.
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I agree with the ick factor. I only watched the episode with the clothing designer, but was so turned off by it. They made her come off as being so "less-than"-the rather patronizing nicey nice way the people at the design house spoke to her (like she was a child, really,) the way she herself acted-even when she pulled it off. Blech. Putting oneself in those types of arenas and succeeding is not the be all and end all-our society has such a limited view of what defines success! I certainly don't buy into it.
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