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#1 of 4 Old 03-30-2013, 05:50 PM - Thread Starter
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This was a short article in The Guardian by Dr. Angharad Rudkin, on the top five regrets most commonly listed by parents.


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1 Spending too little time with your children

You're not just spending time with them – you're laying foundations that help them feel important and valued. Even a short amount of time every day, when you are completely with your children, can work wonders to make them feel other people are interested in them. No amount of presents or DVDs can make up for this. Remember, them wanting to spend intense time with you is for a brief period of your lives. Make the most of it.

Not prioritising their needs

Work out your needs and theirs and prioritise theirs as much as you can. For example, you really want your child to learn the violin but he/she really doesn't want to. Do you put what you want first or listen to what the child wants? With some things, such as school work, they have to do it. With other things, think about if it's for them or you.

Go to the Guardian UK  to read the last three. 


Do these resonate with you? Do you think your own parents have some of these regrets? What's your action plan for avoiding these regrets with your children? 

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Wow, annoying article. I was especially grouchy about point five: guilt. The article was pretty much parental guilt trip from start to finish.
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Guilt is what I felt the most. No matter what I did, there was something not done. I spent my son's childhood always feeling bad for not being perfect. Now that he's a teen, I have relaxed a lot more. I wish I had been able to do it sooner. Oh, well.
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Originally Posted by MeepyCat View Post

Wow, annoying article. I was especially grouchy about point five: guilt. The article was pretty much parental guilt trip from start to finish.


I agree.  While the points may be good, something about the phrasing was kind putting.  I agree though with the main points.

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