Great article in the New York Times about the unintended consequences of "helicopter parenting".
The article says:
A separate study, published the same month in the Journal of Child and Family Studies and led by the psychologist Holly H. Shiffrin at the University of Mary Washington, finds that the more parents are involved in schoolwork and selection of college majors — that is, the more helicopter parenting they do — the less satisfied college students feel with their lives.
Why would parents help produce these negative outcomes? It seems that certain forms of help can dilute recipients’ sense of accountability for their own success.
So what's a parent to do? The research suggest that the best way to help is to offer it only when truly needed, to make sure our help doesn't substitute the recipient's own actions, and when the person we're helping feels that we are comfortable being depended upon.
It's a good read about something I think about a lot. Find it here.