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I agree that you can't force a child to nurse. It just won't work. But I do think that, given what you wrote, you might want to think a little bit more about why exactly you're so invested in the notion of tandem nursing when the new LO arrives. If your DS is happy and thriving without nursing, it does make me wonder why it's so important for YOU that your DS nurses again.
My oldest child weaned at about the same age for the same reason. For awhile, I did feel guilty that he weaned at such a young age (he was 1.5yo) and I second guessed my actions. I was open to the idea of him tandem nursing when the baby arrived, but my DS had absolutely no interest in nursing again. I asked him if he wanted to try a few times, but he had forgotten how to nurse and the attempts were unsuccessful. DS is 9 now, and is happy and thriving and shows absolutely no ill effects from weaning at the young age of 1.5.
I also think that if a child is attached to nursing and needs to nurse for a longer period of time, they will continue nursing despite a lack of milk. Both of my girls nursed through my pregnancies and continued until they were 5+ because they needed it and they were attached to nursing. My DS didn't need to nurse in the same way, and so weaned at an earlier age.
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