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I define Child-led weaning as the child asking to nurse when they would like to and the mother not offering at all, therefore it is completely the child's choice when they would like to nurse. I am also careful to consider that the child nursing is actually a child - between 2/3 years old (and older) and not younger such as a baby or toddler, if a baby or toddler stops nursing I would consider it a nursing strike rather than CLW - does that help you any? Please ask away if needs be.
Also, I don't considered CLW when the mom's trying all day to no create a nursing opportunity,ex. don't seat, because the child is going to ask for nursing.
I'm just asking why it wouldn't be CL if the child just doesn't ask and you just don't put it out there, that is the part that doesnt make sense.
To me this is CLW.
To me the definition I have read on here that includes continuing to offer the breast repeatedly throughout the day as a reminder to the child who is not asking that actually seems like mother led nursing, not CLW. I don't get that.
I agree this wouldn't be CLW to me
Is the point to prolong nursing past the childs possible disinterest into childhood for a certain benefit?
No definitely not, follow the child's lead; forcing a child to take the breast when it no longer wants is not going to do the child any good at all, in fact quite the reverse, although I could imagine some folk wanting their child to nurse till 5/6 because of a child's immune system is not fully developed until around 6 years old.
I have truely known several people whose children refused the breast as toddlers and yes they get milk or snacks or what have you, but it was because the children showed active interest in those kinds of foods. So it would seem to me to be child-led to allow access to those kinds of foods. In one case I heard of a family that raises dairy cows for a raw dairy share program and their son weaned as a toddler because he preferred the raw milk. That was his preferrence. They could not convince him to stay at the breast. Would it have been more Child-led to not engage him in trying the foods he showed interest in?
There are always going to be exceptions to the rule, if he showed interest in this food from the beginning then to refuse the child would not be CL - no?
This is why it is all confusing to me and I don't want to start down a path I don't understand.
Yes, this definition is complicated, but maybe something that may help you is to define CLW for yourself and your child, find out what works for you both - this thread is a perfect start!!
I believe in true Child-led practices, but this has some hang ups for me right now.