Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: Northern Ontario
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There are a number of factors here.
One, as others have stated, being ready to spend the night at grandma's is different from being ready to wean. Some kids are ready for a night at grandma's before weaning. Others may wean before they're ready for a night at grandma's- especially if grandma isn't particularly nurturing.
Secondly, your mother and sister are being manipulative and disrespectful to both you and your DD. Those little comments, in your DD's earshot, can be very damaging to your nursing relationship. The only time such comments would be appropriate is if YOU initiated the weaning and asked for their support/assistance in making it smooth for DD.
If your mom was repeatedly making snide comments about weaning on the phone or in emails, I might say to ignore it. But when it happens in front of DD, it crosses a boundary. I'd suggest practicing what to say, so the next time your mom makes "one little comment" about weaning, you already know what to say, and you don't let it slide. If nothing else, DD will hear Grandma's comment along with yours, and be re-assured that it's OK to keep on nursing.