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I completely believe that nursing a toddler has to be a two way street, if it's going to work for both mom and lo. I'm not tandeming, but I do set some mild limits with my almost-two year old dd. Like if I am going to be nursing her down for nap or bedtime in the next hour, and she asks to nurse, I'll tell her that we will nurse when we go to bed. She likes to nurse every two hours, sometimes for a long session, so I'm not always amenable to doing two sessions in one hour.
She is able to comprehend the idea of "turns", if your dd understands turns, maybe that's one thing you can explain to her, that sometimes it's her turn and sometimes it's the baby's turn.
Or perhaps you could use some other cue that she can watch for and clearly see - like "we will nurse when the baby is asleep" or something else easy for her to tell. Every kid is so different, figuring out what works might be a bit of trial and error. My ds had a harder time with learning to wait a bit for nursing, my dd is more flexible with it. Ds would unlatch after the end of a song, that cue doesn't work so well with dd. Keep trying different gentle prompts and I'm sure you'll find one that clicks with her.
btw, even with gentle limits ds did CLW, at three and a half, and I expect dd will also - they are not too discouraged by the application of some boundaries.