MY DD is almost 4 and I noticed that my body does this:
close to my menstruation and all the way around and bit after
I have super low milk supply and it also hurst a bit at times
but not to your degree but clearly hormons are doing something
around this time so i learned to just let go
-I noticed the more I stress about milk going low then the
milk goes lower .. so I am trying to do what I did when
I first ever started this business
: and it is 4 years ago ha haha..
so I had to help myself to relax, viusalize, calm, think positive
and it helped
- I also do warm glass of milk before nursing my daughter
and so it goes easier as somehow it almost feels like the
warm milk runs right through me to her :-)
- I also consider that this all might come to end soon due to my
biology so as a backup plan I have for a longest while sippy cup
avialable in the bedroom every night and I do nusre my dd
and somehow I also offer her sippy as I see she is not getting
what she nees and she is simply thirsty so I ask
do you want some sippy as she nurses and sometimes
she nods her head, detaches form nipple and grabs sippy..
we use bisphenol free or glass sippy by born free btw.
and water only. never juice.
- I also offer her warm milk in the sippy before sleep
as this also sattisfies her and she nurses less..
- I also explain her that if during the night she wont' get
enough milk she always can get water in a sippy and she can
ask, I will give her .. she sometimes just is too sleepy
and fogets so it is good to remind and ask in the wee
hours of the night.
- I also try to get some sleep as I do have many nights just
liek you abut I have no heart to do any harsh night weaning
and she won't give up so we go with the flow but
I do tell her some nights and now more and more
that I am super tired and tomorrow is goig to be fun
day full of this and that so mamma needs rest
and sleep so if "you need to nurse.. mama will be more
tired and less funny tomorrow so maybe you can have
water instead tonight okay?" and sometimes it just works
and she sleeps thorugh the night without waking once
otherwise I am so used to her waking me up and nursing
that I am somehow managing after that many years..
but still if have choice I would rather not because
I noticed that I jsut really feel more exhosted during
the day if I night nurse and it is not about sleep but
about my body making all the milk.
if you ever want to increase your milk supply at this point
you might try one of the two.. what worked for me is:
- her frequent nursing for a while always increase my milk supply
as in when she is sick or something is bother in her or growth spurt
she will nurse like crazy day and night endless times and so
my milk supply goes up just like int he old day sof nursling a tinny
baby she was..
- furthermore the fenugreek... works like a charm.. and I did not
as what they suggest you as they try to sell you as much of this stuff
as possible but I did try minimum that worked for me so one capsule
per day of organic, and pure fenugreek from wholefoods did a totall trick
for me a day.. sometimes I did two during a day but never more per day.
my milk production was going throug the roof so I did that on my periods
because I did see the milk going down like crazy and I was hurting
and she was struggling so I did that only during periods and then stopped.
I just don't believe that anything is safe what we supplement as nobody knows how it might affect full body so I do absolute minimum when it is absolutely neccssary. it worked for me.
other then that it is what it is.. I do not do any hormonal contraceptives, I do not drink hormonal milk - only one that is added hormons free (as of course milk has normal natural hormons in it) so we do whole foods milk added hormons free..
I also drink some tea with milk as this somehow kicks milk productoion up
and it used to be widely popular way to do it in the old days.
Hope this help. You are always welcome to PM me if you have any questions or concerns, I will be happy to answer. My DD is 4 years old and so I think I did it all, been though all and be happy to talk about ins and outs as we seem to be on the same page.
My DD also wakes up a lot and I don't usually talk aobut it with other moms who are not understanding because they jsut don't know what it means and I also would never do anyting like CIO or anything so I am trying to comfort m lo with what I have and all.. we do cosleep.
hugs and best wishes