[QUOTE=Viola;14426572]Do you feel like it was child respectful?...I think the mother's feelings and attitudes are always going to come into play because it's a nursing relationship, not just a one sided thing. And I think that is good!"
And Ewe+Lamb "we don't have to turn into martyrs to be good mothers. "
Thank you both for saying this. I hear a lot of pressure around "child-led" weaning that doesn't seem very fair to the mother. It *IS* a relationship, and it should be a positive and balanced one. I'm still nursing my daughter (June 2007), and will continue doing so for some time, HOWEVER, I am not comfortable letting her run me down to the extent that I become resentful and tortured trying to "stand" a nursing session. I don't think that's healthy for HER or for ME. If nursing isn't working at that moment or it isn't a time I feel I can do it, I think there are other comforts (hugs, hand holding, reassurance) that can be offered that are still appropriate and positive. While she loves the boob, I think it's important to help her understand that the boob is attached to MAMA and doesn't BELONG to her.
So to the OP, it sounds like there was a balance in how your nursing relationship was defined, and you both participated in the process. Don't feel guilty.
Co-sleeping, Breastfeeding, EC'ing, Baby-wearing, Homebirthing mama to two fabulous girls 6/2007 and 8/2010