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#1 of 2 Old 09-27-2009, 02:20 PM - Thread Starter
 
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So Ds is 5 he weaned about a week after he turned 3 we had a WONDERFUL nurseing relationship not any problems at all! He is now 5 but he has never stopped rubbing or patting or touch my breasts he LOVES them still he gets to the point where he sometimes tries to pull my shirt up to look at them I am now Due in November and I am worried that he will end up jelous that the new baby gets his milkies! He has asked me amny times if the baby will have milkies like he did and when I say yes of course he smiles and says ohh that is good milkies are wonderful

Now my question is are most children still attatched to their mamas milkies after they have weaned?? Is it normal? it is also annoying at times is there a gentle way to put a stop to the rubbing and pushing and touching!? i try to explain it to him that it is not nice to keep touching a girls boobs and he just smiles and says but he likes them help!

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Our children are 8.5 years apart in age, so DD came along a good 3+ years after DS had weaned himself. He did say one day that we should "raise this one the way you raised me." Sweet child, as if he was already raised!

I'm tying to think how I might've handled that fondness if he had still been that focussed on them. Maybe allow some cuddling (Thinking of the "you don't need a pillow if you've got your mom" line from the song "Use a Napkin, Not Your Mom"), but ask him to keep his hands down? Sounds like he approves of the fact that the new baby will be being breastfed. That might be approval rather than incipient jealousy being expressed there. Every once in a while, kids can be pretty darned wise.

OTOH, that's no guarantee that he won't also have such feelings once he sees baby nursing. I wouldn't try to predict, but play it, state it to him such that of course it's good that baby is nursing, and that he nursed too for as long as he needed too. Leave him space to step into that big brother supporting baby's need to nurse if that's the route he looks to be heading.


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