[QUOTE=mammal_mama;14863310]aileen, I'm so glad for your response!
I strongly feel that my focus needs to be on meeting my children's needs and accepting them for who they are at every stage of life -- not on making them "turn out any certain way" (as you so wisely put it).
I think some of this attitude is due to society's idea that "normal, healthy" mothers are in a hurry to get their children to wean and grow up. We're supposed to be in a huge hurry to get them past babyhood.
First, thank you for your replies. They are really making me think about the feelings I had after watching the video.
I agree that the focus should be on meeting a child's needs vs. having them "turn out a certain way". I guess my problem is that is nursing your 8 yr or older child truly meeting their needs or are you hindering them from developing other coping mechanisms. *This is speaking of a typical child not one with SN.
I am not in any way suggesting hurrying a child to wean but if your child has not weaned by 8 (in U.S. society) would you not wonder why?
Slightly off topic, but I was reading the thread about nursing an older child in public. I nursed in public until my children weaned themselves (and still do with dd). I am comfortable with it because I am confident that what I was doing was best for my child, even at 4. I can't say that I would feel the same at 8,9, or 10.
So, if you feel the need (assuming you were comfortable with NIP intially) to hide that your much older child is nursing are you then sending the message to them that what you are doing is wrong?
Sorry for the ramble, it was a long night last night.