When did your children want to quit - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
Reply
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 53 Old 03-24-2010, 06:24 PM - Thread Starter
 
Saarland's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2007
Posts: 34
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Hi,

I am curious: How old were your children when they decided that it was enough?
Saarland is offline  
#2 of 53 Old 03-24-2010, 06:56 PM
 
Satori's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: Earth, I think, kids say Cybertron
Posts: 7,904
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 7 Post(s)
Wish I had an answer for you, I cut one off at 5 (which she was not happy about even though I spent a year preparing her) and the other one is about to turn 4 and still highly addicted. I plan on cutting her off at 5 too and I don't see it being a pretty thing.

Seriously?
Satori is offline  
#3 of 53 Old 03-24-2010, 07:01 PM
 
KSLaura's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Colorado
Posts: 504
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 8 Post(s)
Lol... when I ask my 4YO, her usual response is NEVER!

I'm hoping she eventually decides she's had enough.


" rel="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/familybed2.gif">familybed2.gif  DD1 12/05, DD2 12/08


Computer Engineer- I write better in 1's and 0's. ;-)
KSLaura is offline  
#4 of 53 Old 03-24-2010, 07:13 PM
 
joycenjackiesmom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Colorado
Posts: 194
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
I ended up cutting my older daughter off at about 4.5 years over a few weeks. My younger daughter stopped at 18 months--one day she looked at me and laughed at the idea of nursing. The next day I convinced her to do it one more time (to help my pain) and that was the last time she nursed.
joycenjackiesmom is offline  
#5 of 53 Old 03-25-2010, 06:14 PM - Thread Starter
 
Saarland's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2007
Posts: 34
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Wow, at 18 months? A little Miss Independent?

It seems to me that girls are often "done with it" sooner than boys. At least what I see when I look around.

Well, let's see how mine goes. But I actually see him keeping on nursing and nursing and then still being very upset, even if he is already 5. O well....
Saarland is offline  
#6 of 53 Old 03-25-2010, 08:37 PM
 
salalmama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2009
Posts: 2
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My ds nursed until he was 5.5. We started very slowly teaching him to go to sleep without milk at 4.5, and I thought he was never going to quit! Then one day he told me the milk was gone and that was it.

Sarah, mom to ds Shea 7 and dd Jane Feb 5, 2010.
salalmama is offline  
#7 of 53 Old 03-26-2010, 03:16 AM
 
Peony's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2003
Posts: 25,336
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 5 Post(s)
DD1 was just shy of 4, DD2 3.

There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.
Peony is online now  
#8 of 53 Old 03-26-2010, 08:28 AM
 
Mom2M's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: PA
Posts: 1,614
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
DD was 4.5 and quit when DD2 was born. She tried nursing a couple times after she was born and then said she was done.
It was sweet, she said the milk was DD2's now.

Deb, Mom to Madeleine 8/2005 and Maia 11/2009 Nick: and Chris
Mom2M is offline  
#9 of 53 Old 03-27-2010, 12:21 AM
 
pinky's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2001
Location: North Carolina
Posts: 1,828
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Both of mine at about 5.5, despite the fact that their nursing patterns were so different. I think my younger dd would have nursed longer if there had been a baby in the family, but by the time she was 5 there just wasn't really any milk. My breasts are still her favorite comfort object, though.

FWIW, up until the time they stopped, I honestly thought that neither one of them would stop on their own. And they did.
pinky is offline  
#10 of 53 Old 03-27-2010, 12:29 AM
 
alegna's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2003
Posts: 44,408
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
5.5 and not giving up yet...

-Angela
alegna is offline  
#11 of 53 Old 03-27-2010, 08:12 AM
 
Dulcealegria's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: Hamburg
Posts: 57
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My older is 5.5 and still breastfeeding every morning and night, it seems its not going to end this year.
Dulcealegria is offline  
#12 of 53 Old 03-27-2010, 08:50 AM
 
dinan6's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Virginia
Posts: 286
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
It seems from the previous posts that my babies stop early.. I let my last two babies decide and my dd was 16 months, I was pregnant so that may have helped in the decision for her.. One day she just didn't want to nurse, it was so quick I was sad.. As with my ds he is 14 months and just didn't want to nurse one day.. I was surprised and kept offering but he didn't want it.. I do think that my supply was declining and he would get frustrated when nursing.. I do miss it and was sad being that he is my last baby... although now he does a snuggle with me at the times when we used to nurse so that is very sweet.

:
dinan6 is offline  
#13 of 53 Old 03-29-2010, 01:46 AM
ssh
 
ssh's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2007
Posts: 1,716
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My DD stopped nursing to sleep a couple of months before turning 4. She weaned completely about 3 weeks after that.
ssh is offline  
#14 of 53 Old 03-29-2010, 03:47 PM
 
contactmaya's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2006
Posts: 2,088
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 31 Post(s)
My kiddo is 4.8 and only asks about every other day. Sometimes he refuses when i offer (yes, i do actually offer)
contactmaya is offline  
#15 of 53 Old 04-05-2010, 12:44 AM
 
redpajama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Ann Arbor, Michigan
Posts: 1,109
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My 5-year-old (son) stopped nursing for good right around his fifth birthday, but it was *very* gradual (I kept thinking, "this is it!" and then he'd ask to nurse again). The last 5-6 months that he nursed, he nursed very infrequently.

My 3-year-old (daughter) isn't anywhere near ready to wean.

(My 7-month-old daughter is *also* not ready to wean.)
redpajama is offline  
#16 of 53 Old 04-05-2010, 01:09 AM
 
rockymtnmama's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: CO
Posts: 378
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My oldest was 4 1/2 when he weaned, and my youngest was 3 1/2. They were definitely ready and so was I, but I was the one who ended up initiating it both times. We had a weaning calendar and after they had gone a week without nursing we had a weaning party. They both remember their weaning parties fondly - they are 10 and 8 now and still talk about it!
rockymtnmama is offline  
#17 of 53 Old 04-14-2010, 03:45 PM
 
contactmaya's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2006
Posts: 2,088
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 31 Post(s)
My 4 1/2 year old still nurses occasionally, ...but so occasionally, i dont really know how often. Maybe once a week... anyway, one night he wanted to nurse, and then stopped and said 'Mom, i dont need 'ongi' to sleep anymore.'

Anyway, i guess he'll wean soon, but im not in a hurry. His brother at 2 is still going about 6x a day (probably more actually)
Maya
contactmaya is offline  
#18 of 53 Old 04-15-2010, 12:20 PM
 
mamaw/two's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2005
Posts: 763
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My first dd stopped at 2 1/4 yrs old, but we had a busy weekend and I was also 13 weeks preggo. She just quit, I didn't even realize until it had been three days. I was sad but sortof relived because it had been hurting so bad to nurse her. My 2nd dd was 3 3/4 yrs old and had to be slightly coaxed, she got a scooter for a weaning present My first ds was one month past 3 yrs old and just looked at me while I was nursing his little brother and said, "I don't want mama milk anymore." and that was that...it was sad for me because it just came out of the blue and I wasn't ready for it at all. My 2nd ds is only 11 monthes, so it will be interesting to see what he does.
mamaw/two is offline  
#19 of 53 Old 04-23-2010, 10:04 AM
 
lindalu's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2009
Posts: 146
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My 4y9m old is now saying, "maybe when I am 6". He used to say, "when I am 4". When he turned 4, he said "when I am 5). He only nurses once a day - I set some limits along way. I wonder if I set too many because he now seems to substitute rubbing my moles! Drives me crazy! I think I am getting close to wanting him to wean, but am not sure.....

My 2y11m old dd is going strong. I thought she would wean early but she loves her "milk-milk"!

dh wants them both to stop - that's another thread.....
lindalu is offline  
#20 of 53 Old 04-23-2010, 10:41 AM
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: crazy with Vertigo
Posts: 2,348
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My older DD was 3.5 when I stopped her. I was tandeming and just could not do it anymore. I felt so guilty and still do because I know she loved it and needed it and would probably have continued for a year or more.

My younger DD stopped on her own last year a few months after her 3rd birthday. She started wearing panties and sleeping in a toddler bed and decided she didn't need to nurse or nap anymore, "I'm a big girl now mom and I don't do that anymore". Okay, then.

Much easier on my conscience that way! I will not coerce a child into quitting again, like I did with my older DD. If I am gifted with more kids, I will be in it for the long run.

Black Orchid is offline  
#21 of 53 Old 04-23-2010, 08:24 PM
 
cappuccinosmom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: SW Pennsylvania
Posts: 5,628
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
18 months for the first two 26?? months for the third. I'm sure pregnancy had something to do with the first two. They both just suddenly started refusing around the time I was 3 months pregnant. My third didn't have a sibling interrupt his noonies. But by the time he was two years old, he was super-active and I was getting skin-crawls every time he nursed, so I didn't try to push him to nurse and was relieved as he gradually stopped asking. I had night-weaned him at about 18 months because by that point after so many years of night-waking (they're all two years apart), I was getting close to insane from sleep deprivation.

And I don't feel guilty either. All three were ready, all three thrived afterwards, and all three are remarkably healthy little goobers. I gave them a *really* good start with nursing exclusively for as long as they wanted, and I am content with that.
cappuccinosmom is offline  
#22 of 53 Old 04-24-2010, 03:52 PM
 
elaine_benice's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Posts: 8
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by Dulcealegria View Post
My older is 5.5 and still breastfeeding every morning and night, it seems its not going to end this year.

I have a 6 YO and when my baby was born, she wanted to nurse again. After too much of persuasion I finally let her try. She had completely forgotten to latch. She still ocassionally asks to nurse.

elaine_benice is offline  
#23 of 53 Old 04-24-2010, 04:03 PM
 
proudmamanow's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2003
Location: home again, home again, jiggety-jig
Posts: 2,066
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
My 5 yo is still going strong, though I'm kind of getting ready to be done. She claims she is going to be done when she is 9.5 but I will cut her off before then!!!
proudmamanow is offline  
#24 of 53 Old 04-24-2010, 04:56 PM
 
TiredX2's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: it appears to be a handbasket
Posts: 20,475
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
We considered DD "officially" weaned at 4 years, 2 months. She couldn't figure out how to latch after that though she tried for another 15 months and was upset for much of the time. I consider the limitations I imposed while pg with DS to have altered her natural weaning timeline.

DS was 5 years, 8 months. He was *so* proud when he weaned himself. One days I was like, "Hey, you haven't nursed in a while" and he gave a huge grin and said, "Yup, I've weaned." It was spring of his kindergarten year.

 

 

TiredX2 is offline  
#25 of 53 Old 04-24-2010, 04:57 PM
 
annettemarie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: In the Restricted Section
Posts: 41,722
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
Please keep in mind that this is the Child-Led Weaning forum, so I am assuming the OP is looking for ages of when children have quit on their own, without prompting, coaxing, or other mother-led encouragement. Thank you!

Flowers, fairies, gardens, and rainbows-- Seasons of Joy: 10 weeks of crafts, handwork, painting, coloring, circle time, fairy tales, and more!
Check out the blog for family fun, homeschooling, books, simple living, and 6 fabulous children, including twin toddlers

annettemarie is offline  
#26 of 53 Old 05-17-2010, 02:26 AM
 
nolonger's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2006
Posts: 3,814
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
it was very, very gradual: every month for under five minutes, then every three months, then it felt like whenever i declared her weaned, she would ask again.

i have no memory whatsoever of the last time she nursed, but she was somewhere around 7 or 7 1/2.

She won't ask again; she's 21 now, lol.

ds1 was 6 1/2, but i don't consider that clw because i overdid the "after i finish..." and then when i finished whatever seemed so darned important at the time, i wouldn't remind him if he seemed happy doing something else. i never intended to wean him, i just felt 'touched out", but pretty soon he stopped asking and then started refusing when offered.

he's 18 now.

Although both kids were shockingly old by cultural standards, i see a huge difference in them and feel that the clw kid benefited tremendously from what really wasn't that much more time out of my own life.

most kids will wean earlier than that, but i will not cut my two year old off if leisurely weaning runs in my family.
nolonger is offline  
#27 of 53 Old 05-17-2010, 03:46 PM
 
Join Date: Jul 2003
Posts: 704
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
at 3.5 and 5.5 years old; both had been tapering down from a few times a day to 1 time a day in the 6-9 months leading up, and then one day I realized I couldn't remember when we'd had our last nursing session ...

Amy & DH, homeschooling Mama to
DD 9 love.gif DS 7 yrs   
ChinaDoll is offline  
#28 of 53 Old 05-19-2010, 01:01 AM
 
Mom2M's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: PA
Posts: 1,614
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Already posted. oops

Deb, Mom to Madeleine 8/2005 and Maia 11/2009 Nick: and Chris
Mom2M is offline  
#29 of 53 Old 05-19-2010, 04:28 PM
 
Lovinmum's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: Ga
Posts: 355
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
DS1 was 22m and it nearly killed me! It was what ended up being 6 weeks before his little brother was born and he just lost interest. He nursed a couple of times after DS2 arrived but then he started refusing. He would say "it brudders now". It made me so sad for him to not want it anymore when our goal was 4 years but he seemed to be okay with it so I guess he knew best. DS2 is 8 months and totally boobie obsessed.

Amy~ Crunchy mummy to Dane (9-15-07) & Kai (9-14-09)
Lovinmum is offline  
#30 of 53 Old 05-26-2010, 07:14 PM
 
Nan'sMom's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Posts: 1,498
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My oldest recently weaned at 6 years old. She feels totally fine with it. My younger two are 4.5 years old and 21 months and still going strong.

I wouldn't categorize us as totally CLW, as I did limit nursing somewhat, especially when nursing three, but I tried to work with my daughter as much as possible on it.
Nan'sMom is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off