I just wanted to add, to everyone here.....
There will always be a variety of definitions of CLW ranging from strict to lenient. I have a feeling that it will always confuse some people because people in general seem to like to have a narrow definition of everything (maybe to classify and categorize everyone and everything??). I also have the feeling that some here are not sure if they feel welcome or not, so they are questioning and feeling their way. But child-led weaning is so subjective and personal, it is not fair to yourselves and others to expect one mother's definition to control yours, yk?
I think if mothers come here, though, wanting to have a narrow definition placed on it for them, then they should not balk when others give their own ideal definition. We shouldn't have to walk on eggshells. If a mom is asking, then she should be open to receiving what she gets (and take it or leave it as part of her own ideal).
I think the one thing that is safe to say about child-led weaning is that the child ultimately decides when to wean. (I had to stop myself from tagging on a bunch of assumptions to that because that would be putting my own subjective ideals of it onto others, yeah?)
BTW, I think it's safe to say that the word 'wean' in the context of CLW is actually a healthy word to be celebrated, not one full of anxiety, negativity and stress on either part of mother and/or child.
Over the past years of having one or two very lengthy child-led weaning threads, I have noticed one major thing. There is a tremendous amount of respect and kindness among all of us. We all vary, sometimes we disagree, but we all respect and appreciate one another. (That's why I added on the
to my signature, btw). This may sound sappy but through the child-led weaning discussions I have felt a close sisterhood with the many mamas who have shared themselves with me, and who made me feel comfortable and welcome enough to share myself with them. They have supported me through everything, and in turn I support them through everything. Even just to listen and
or just make yourself 'here'. I am thrilled that this forum is here because our numbers will grow and hopefully more mothers will feel that sense of sisterhood and support.