Ds is 20 months old and I'm in my first trimester. I really want to "use" child-led weaning (somehow that phrase doesn't sound right) but I have a few questions....
Yesterday ds would nurse and then take my nipple between his tounge and top teeth and streeeettttttccccchhhhh it until it popped out of his mouth.
I sat him down, said "no teeth" and started crying. It hurt SO badly. We went through a brief period of biting, back when ds was, oh, 6 or 7 months, but it hasn't been an issue since. I thought it was a fluke what happened in the morning (maybe he was still tired?) so I wasn't looking for it later on when he did the same thing! I sat him down away from me (not hard, just to get him off of me) said "no teeth" and closed up shop. Then he immediately wanted to nurse again. I explained, "Not right now, Mama's nipples hurt from your teeth, here's some water and I'll hold and cuddle you." So he's crying 'cause I won't nurse him and I'm crying because my nipple is really sore and that's the first time I've ever refused him. Am I weaning him? I really don't want to, but my nipples were so tender and raw for a while after that. He's not understanding that he's hurting me, just that I won't nurse him and that's not what I want to convey.
Also - How do you go about increasing your child's patience? If I'm cooking raw chicken I need to wash my hands before I pick him up and nurse him. Now that he's really started w/tantrums (like if the oatmeal has to cool down before he can eat it) if I don't pick him up or nurse him immediately when he signs/asks for it, he'll lose it 80% of the time. While I'm washing my hands (or whatever) I sympathise w/how hard it is to wait when you really want something, but I'll be there to help him as soon as I can.
I don't want ds to think I'm refusing to nurse him, but I don't think that asking him to wait the 45 seconds - minute for me to wash my hands or go potty is too much to ask. Is it at this age?
Sorry for the novel, I look forward to reading any suggestions for getting ds to not do this nipple/teeth stretch thing and getting him to wait just a minute before nursing. I posted here and not gentle discipline or the other bfding forum because I don't want to wean and I thought y'all would understand that here.
If you made it through all that Congrats! I'll be off-line for a while, but I'll try and get back on tonight.