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What a nice surprise!! Thank you!
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OMG Cynthia!!!! What a wonderful surprise to find this morning. I am in shock! This is so great. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!!!!

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You have been making some really wonderful and important changes lately and we SO appreciate them.
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YAY!
I'm here, too!
We should do a "roll call"

Thank you, Cynthia and MDC!
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Nice! I'm glad to see this here.

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I prefer the term "child respectful weaning" myself. Was this one of the titles we voted on? I thought most preferred "bfing beyond infancy?"

Will we be ostracizing moms who can not do child led weaning? I fear it is a title loaded with value judgements.

But I know it is meant well...
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I prefer the term "child respectful weaning" myself. Was this one of the titles we voted on? I thought most preferred "bfing beyond infancy?"

Will we be ostracizing moms who can not do child led weaning? I fear it is a title loaded with value judgements.

But I know it is meant well...

Thank you. I think it is horrendously ostracizing and belittling, and most certainly 'loaded with value judgements'. Also exclusionary, as if every mama on MDC has chosen this path.
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- you are helping her to build a confident, trusting foundation for future dependence.
A typo?
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Thank you. I think it is horrendously ostracizing and belittling, and most certainly 'loaded with value judgements'. Also exclusionary, as if every mama on MDC has chosen this path.


Wow. Boy, obviously I have missed something. But then, I haven't been in this forum much since our weaning.

I think it's great to have a place where one can talk about child-led weaning without people bashing it. My own late weaner caused some extreme social isolation for me IRL. I don't think it's unreasonable to have a "safe place" for people who make the decision to do this.
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i don't get why it would be belittling - its just a forum for people who are practicing child led weaning. clue me in please some one.
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As I understand it, this forum has been *added* and is not replacing anything. I can't help but wonder, does the homebirth forum cause others to feel ostracized and belittled for having a hospital birth? Or does the EC forum do the same for those of us who aren't doing EC?
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THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!

Clarification please: will any posts referencing non child led weaning be removed from this forum?

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Will we be ostracizing moms who can not do child led weaning? I fear it is a title loaded with value judgements.
Couldn't they just stay in the regular bfeeding forum (even extended)? I'm really weary myself of the constant weaning emphasis that creaps in, and I like the idea of a place with NO weaning pressure (including just people asking for advice on how to wean their young infant/toddlers).

 

 

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WAIT A SECOND!!!

Where is the "Extended Bfeeding" Forum? Has that just become "Child-Led Weaning?" Because, in that case, I have to agree with the others--- that is not an appropriate name change. I think the majority of posters on the Extended Bfeeding forum do NOT practice CLW--- where are "they" supposed to go?

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No, this is a new forum. I realized that the EB forum has now been merged with getting started and overcoming difficulties. Hmmm, if I was doing mother led weaning, but extended bfing I think I wouldn't want to have the same forum where there are questions about newborns etc. I can understand being upset about the merging of those two forums. The CLW forum has not replaced anything though. It's simply our newest forum addition.
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I am getting the idea that anyone with breastfeeding issues, be it:

a brag/celebration
a problem
a weaning question

should stay in "Breastfeeding"

Child-led weaners get their own sub-forum.

Did they want one?
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I am getting the idea that anyone with breastfeeding issues, be it:

a brag/celebration
a problem
a weaning question

should stay in "Breastfeeding"

Child-led weaners get their own sub-forum.

Did they want one?
We wanted a subforum, but did not intend for any of the other BF forums to disappear. Is support and advocacy still here? I'm a bit confuzzled now.

Glad to be here! I don't understand why anyone feels this forum is exclusionary... after all I don't have teens or preteens so I don't post in that forum. I have had vaginal births so I don't post on the VBAC forum. If you intend to choose mother-led weaning then one of the other BF forums (assuming there are others left) would be for you.
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Child-led weaners get their own sub-forum. Did they want one?
DaryLLL, we most definitely want our own forum! Even at MDC, there are many mamas that consider 3, 4, 5, 6, 7 and beyond too old to breastfeed. It is very disheartening. I am extremely pleased that there is now a forum dedicated to child-led weaning, which imho is not the same as child-respectful weaning.

I also think it may be a good idea for extended to be combined with getting started and overcoming difficulties. I was guilty of never visiting the getting started forum. Perhaps now there will be more experienced people over there to offer help.
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Clarification please: will any posts referencing non child led weaning be removed from this forum?
Yes. They'll be moved to the Breastfeeding forum.

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I am glad to see this forum, but very sad to see the demise of the EBF forum. Though I am the mother of an almost 3 year old nursling, I have set some limits on her nursing that I think many who are really committed to CLW would not agree with. Now I feel like I don't fit in anywhere.

Could we keep this forum and bring back EBF?

Trying to get my bearings...
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I agree with Ellie'smom. I think that extended bf'ing needs its own forum, separate from general bf'ing. Perhaps a subforum under the new breastfeeding forum?
But as a bigtime clw'er, I also agree that we have very different issues than other "extended" moms. I like having a place where we can talk safely about this; I'm so in the closet about the REALITY of my bf'ing experience at LLL meetings, for example (can't scare off the "short-termers") (and I mean that sincerely, since I DO believe that EVERY feeding counts, and it's a victory to get some moms to nurse to 6 mos.).

anyway, I continue to be confused by people who DON'T do something thinking that those of us who do having a forum to discuss it implies a judgment of them...I have learned to keep my mouth shut so many places on these boards that, oh well, I've been around since the old old boards and I STILL don't have 1000 posts...

Thanks Cynthia, for this forum.
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I am overjoyed to see this forum!!!

It's great to have a place where I won't constantly have to see the word "weaning" in the titles of questions and won't have to be afraid of a debate happening in a thread in which a mama states that she is nursing a 7+ year old. I think this forum is very much needed for mamas who practice natural / child-led weaning.

I don't feel that this forum is any more "exclusionary" than homebirth, homeschooling and beyond, etc. There are many moms on MDC who don't embrace every concept presented, and some of the forums are somewhat opposed to each other (homeschooling/schooling for example). I think it's a great resource for mamas who are considering child-led weaning, who don't know what child-led weaning is, or who want to know more about it.

Thank you for this forum...I look forward to posting here often!!!

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yeah, i didn't realize that EBF was gone - I don't think that's a good idea. I think the issues faced by EBFers are vastly different than those faced by women with infant nurslings. I think there need to be subforums for EBF as well as CLW.
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Thank you, thank you for this forum

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I also think it may be a good idea for extended to be combined with getting started and overcoming difficulties. I was guilty of never visiting the getting started forum. Perhaps now there will be more experienced people over there to offer help.
A good point, one I hadn't considered!
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I'm disappointed that the extended breastfeeding forum is gone..

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Hmmmmmm . . I'm also a bit confused as to where I fit in now. My DD is almost three, still nurses, but like Ellie'sMom, I have put some limits on our nursing relationship that might be looked down upon by some in CLW.

It was really nice to visit the EBF forum for support and advice. I will miss it, as I really felt welcome there and I am not sure how welcome I will be here . . .
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I think that the only thing that we should all keep in check is respect.

Gretasmommy I think it would be wonderful for you to be here! I get tired of having to tell people that we are CLWing. I think if one has really strong feelings against CLWing they probably shouldn't be on this particulair forum.

There is always a grey area. If handled with respect, a grey area can exsist.
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Thanks Mountain Mom

It's the respect part that seems to be difficult to remember here at times. While I love MDC, it seems more and more these days that things become heated and judgemental . . .

I sure hope your confidence in us as a group isn't misplaced!
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For those wondering if they fit in, I think what's important with CLW is that the child leads the way in the *final* weaning. It's almost impossible not to set *some* limits with nursing. If you are planning on nursing until your child is ready to stop you most certainly belong in the CLW forum.
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