Originally Posted by TiredX2
How did they not get sick when they weaned themselves? I mean, weren't they thirsty?
Were they really into solids or something?
And how about sucking? Did they just always have really low sucking needs (or did they start thumbsucking really early on)?
My son weaned himself at 19 months, and we fully did CLW. In answer to your questions:
1.) No, he wasn't thirsty - he was old enough to drink from a sippy and had been for a few months. As for getting sick, my DS didn't.
2.) Funny you ask - this is a VERY long involved story about oral aversions, speech therapy, and osteopathic manipulation. If you're interested, I'll tell it. But suffice it to say, DS was NOT "into" solids for quite a long time, and finally was able to eat them a couple of months before he weaned.
3.) See above response - no, DS has INCREDIBLY low oral needs. He never ever mouthed his toys, never put his fist in his mouth, never chewed his books, etc. Again, long story about oral aversions...
DS was exclusively bf'ed for 15 months, and yes, I was educated, and and yes, I knew about CLW, so no claiming naivete here. But where he had been nursing 8-10 times a day at least, the next month was 6-8, the next month was 3-4, and the next month was just once a day, in the morning. Yes, I offered, but he has always been an exceptionally low oral needs kid.
Each kid is different, and I think it's a bit extreme to expect every family who practices CLW to be nursing their kid 3+ years. CLW is not about how long you nurse, but about letting the child lead the weaning when s/he is ready. After the last time DS nursed, he never EVER asked again. He was really done. I've heard about mama's who wean on their schedule (in other words, mother-led-weaning) and the child is often asking to nurse for months afterward, or whenever s/he sees the mom's breasts, etc. All I can say is that my DS was NEVER like that. Oh sure, when he WAS nursing, if he'd see my breasts he'd decide he needed a snack
but once he was done, he was done.
This next kid I'll do the same thing - I'll nurse until the kid decides s/he's done. If that's before age 2, that's fine, if that's after age 2 or 3 or later, that's fine, too. There's a lot of factors, I think, that go into when a child self-weans.
I didn't have a hard time emotionally when DS weaned, b/c I knew he had done it himself, and it was his choice, and I was satisfied with that. Even co-sleeping never awakened the "gotta nurse" vibe in him. Neither did taking showers or baths together. He was just done at 19 mos.