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#1 of 6 Old 08-02-2006, 03:56 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I love nursing, but I'm so frustrated lately. There aren't many people IRL that I can talk to about it, and DH's predictable answer was, "She's old enough to stop nursing now, anyway. I think it's time." : I just want to get this off my chest without someone assuming that it must mean I hate nursing my 26-month-old, kwim?

First of all, it seems like lately she wants me to sit around just waiting for her to nurse. She wants to latch on for 8 seconds, then play legos for 1 minute, then latch on for another 10 seconds, then play for 20 seconds, then latch on for 1 minute, then play for 3 minutes, and on and on and on... If I get up when she's playing, but before she's decided she's done, she gets incredibly angry and has an all out tantrum. It's just so incredibly frustrating, because this can go on for 30 or 40 minutes.

Second, she often still wants to stay latched on for an hour or more when she naps. She'll nurse for 15 minutes, then I can get up and do things I want to do. The problem is that she often wakes up after 30 minutes and wants me to come back, at which time she latches on and stays latched on until she wakes up from her nap. No amount of practicing the gentle pull-off has worked.

She does the same thing towards morning. She nurses to sleep each night, but then she's usually good until I come to bed a couple hours later. The problem is that she wants to nurse the whole 2 hours before she's ready to get out of bed. THAT is really frustrating, because I can't sleep through it, but I obviously can't get up. I just lie there and feel tense.

Anyway, I guess I'm just posting because I need to get it off my chest without someone telling me it's time to stop nursing. It's hard when you get frustrated like this, but then you can't talk to anyone about it, because it makes them think nursing a toddler must be so awful. I don't get that attitude. Sometimes I'm frustrated with DD, but I don't want to give her away, so why can't I occasionally be frustrated with nursing without wanting to stop?
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I feel your pain....

Is she maybe getting the 2 yr molars? My dd has been, er, demanding lately, and I think that's why.

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Second, she often still wants to stay latched on for an hour or more when she naps. She'll nurse for 15 minutes, then I can get up and do things I want to do. The problem is that she often wakes up after 30 minutes and wants me to come back, at which time she latches on and stays latched on until she wakes up from her nap. No amount of practicing the gentle pull-off has worked.

She does the same thing towards morning. She nurses to sleep each night, but then she's usually good until I come to bed a couple hours later. The problem is that she wants to nurse the whole 2 hours before she's ready to get out of bed. THAT is really frustrating, because I can't sleep through it, but I obviously can't get up. I just lie there and feel tense.

why can't I occasionally be frustrated with nursing without wanting to stop?
Oh Mama, I could have written this verbatim--and my dd is only 16 months old. You rock for hanging with this for 26 months!

I don't have a lick of advice but I can commisserate. In addition to the abover, we have an ongoing, seemingly incurable lazy latch and biting problem. The only thing I ever get from people IRL is that I should wean, she's old enough, why would I put up with any of that . . . blah, blah, blah. It's SO frustrating. Hang in there.
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Thanks, guys! Her molars are almost completely in, so I don't think that's it. I don't know *what* it is. I just hope I get a break soon. I'm tired of having to stay up until 3 am, just to get a little time for myself. :
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I feel it's OK to set limits on nursing when it starts to drive you crazy. That's one of the ways to make it possible to nurse for a longer period of time and have real clw.

I would make sure that hunger and thirst are not issues. Keep a cold bottle of water right there to offer. We were using Gerber sippy cups, but when we switched to Klean Kanteens a couple of months ago our girls' water consumption skyrocketed and their interest in juice plummeted. I think it's because the water tastes so much better in the KK. My point is that you may want to switch containers if your dd has an old plastic sippy cup.

Hang in there.
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what is a klean kanteen? my ds doesn't drink much and I have often wondered if it is due to the plastic cups, but I wasn't sure what else to use. Where did you get it? Please share!!!
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