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#1 of 51 Old 09-27-2006, 12:42 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Sigh. I need to vent where people won't think I'm a total loon.

My dd is driving me crazy. I am just a big boob. She nurses a bajillion times a day. On a good day. She goes crazy if I even ask her to wait. In the span of one hour-long TV show tonight I nursed her at LEAST 4-5 times. She dictates where and in what position we nurse (nurse on COUCH! NO pillows!)

Yep. She's working on 2 yr molars. And she was sick on Sunday, so she's probably a little off still.

The poor other moms at playgroup (an AP playgroup mind you, where the few other toddlers are nearly all nursing- all that are under 3 are....) ask if ALL 2 yr olds nurse that much. We'll be there for 2 hours max and she'll nurse 4-5 times.

that's all. No great solutions. No advice really needed. Just some sympathy.

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It could be wrose...she could be 4! :

Um...did that help? :

Sorry...

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If she's still like this at 4 you can find me in our friendly neighborhood mental hospital.....



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Need a room mate? Do you want the window bed or the one by the door? :

Took Madi to the mall today...
"IF YOU LOVED ME YOU'D BUY ME THIS TRAIN SET!"
(I DID buy it...last week...it "wants a friend" though!)

"I can do whatever I want to!"

"I want a smoothie NOW!...I HATE THIS SMOOTHIE!...WHY did you throw my smoothie away, I WANT IT!"

"I wanna go to the arcade...no I want a dollar with a zero, I want more tokens!"

"I want tootsie rolls because - I CAN HAVE WHATEVER I WANT TO!"

...still think you have it rough?

Hey, that should at least SLIGHTLY lighten the load & make ya feel better!

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Sounds like a fun day!



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I hear ya. I take DD to playgroup and she will easily nurse that many times while we are there. It's a small playgroup and my DD is the only one still nursing--she's 2.5.
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I hope miss Savannah is feeling better soon, and her mama can regain some sanity!

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Your a wonderful mama!

Hope your dd feels back to normal soon.
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I am just a big boob.


I have been saying this for years. I feel you. Oh, do I feel you.

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Jenna was like that at 2... then she self weaned at 2.5... go figure. It's not easy, but it's over before you know it, or even really want it to be. Ok, that's not quite true... when in the middle of it, I desperatly wanted it to be over. It was only after she weaned that I missed it.
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first...

I hear ya... my ds have gone through that same stage at various ages... it does get better... at least in our case... well... I hope...
We are in the same position right now so I will tell myself that over and over again....

they can drive you you crazy at times huh?!

Anyways.... we're here... vent as much as you need to...

 
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The poor other moms at playgroup (an AP playgroup mind you, where the few other toddlers are nearly all nursing- all that are under 3 are....) ask if ALL 2 yr olds nurse that much.
Gawd, I've so been there. My kid is that kid.

All I can say is yeah, I hear you, it's hard sometimes. It does get less frequent. Teething is hard, and that two year old stage is so freaking bossy combined with baby-needy. Hence the constant nursing combined with the demands about where and how.

Hang in there, mama!
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This isn't REALLY about nursing. It's about parenting. Parenting a clingy, teething 2yo is hard work, and it's frustrating, and it tests every ounce of patience you posess, and it isn't always fun.

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This isn't REALLY about nursing. It's about parenting. Parenting a clingy, teething 2yo is hard work, and it's frustrating, and it tests every ounce of patience you posess, and it isn't always fun.
well said... thanks for the reminder....

 
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and that two year old stage is so freaking bossy combined with baby-needy.
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THAT is it exactly. One or the other I could deal with. The combo drives me

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this too shall pass
this too shall pass
this too shall pass....

thanks ladies

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this too shall pass
this too shall pass
this too shall pass....
You already said it yourself. Well, at least you aren't pregnant while all this is going on.

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Yeah, we're planning to TTC this winter....

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I feel for you...
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My dd is driving me crazy. I am just a big boob. She nurses a bajillion times a day. On a good day.
I hear ya! Sometimes when I feel this way it helps to have a little time to myself. If dh can watch the kids while I take a walk by myself for 45 minutes I feel much better.
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You described my 22 mo DD to a tee! Not only is it all boob all the time in my house, but she is an active twiddler, so it's both boobs all the time. "Boobie in the rocking chair!" "Milkie Milkie!" "Want boobie, want boobie, need booooooooooooobie!" "Switch!" "Wake up boobie!" And each nursing session is a marathon... complete with acrobatics.

But I love her so much... And I love our milkie time. But sometimes I have to wash dishes...
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This sounds like my dd when she was 27 monhts old. It was: I want my milkie in bed with a comforter (mine, she adores it). Now, I want my milkie on a sofa and read me my book! Now, I want my milkie in an armchair but don't I don't want your arm here. LOL
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Yeah, what's the deal with her new-found RIGHT to rearrange my body parts?

sigh....

-Angela
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It was actually crazy for me to read this because I *do* remember feeling that way (with both kids!) at that age, but, it REALLY DOES PASS. DS is now 5 and it just is not an issue at this point.

 

 

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Yeah, what's the deal with her new-found RIGHT to rearrange my body parts?
Evie won't let me touch my boob while she's nursing. She says I'm "hurting the nonnie." Wouldn't I know? Yeah, she definitely has a sense of ownership about her nonnie.
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Yep, it will pass, someday...

DD was always a very avid nurser (not right now because I have no milk), she was 3, and a wonderful day was when she'd ask only every hour. But sometimes she might just stay attached for most of that hour. I think I always scared new moms, dd nursed WAY more then their newborns did.

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I think I always scared new moms, dd nursed WAY more then their newborns did.
that is SO dd.... (I type one-handed as she nurses.... AGAIN)

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My 35 mo DS is a big nurser too (unlike my 12 mo who is a more businesslike nurser). I was just visiting a friend who lives in Columbus, OH who goes to a monthly toddler/tandem LLL meeting and I am so envious. I go to regular LLL meetings here but I feel like I can't really talk about my issues because of my worry about freaking out the new moms. Like you, it's not even so much that I need advice, just a sympathetic ear to listen.

I'm gald you have remembered about the 2y molars. I forgot about them until I finally figured out that is what gave DS a diaper rash back in July. It seems a little easier when you know the reason behind a particularly intense time with your child, doesn't it? I know this is true even for stuff going on with myself. Once I know I am pms-ing, it's immediately not so bad somehow.

Hang in there mama!
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Thanks!

Yeah, the darn molars are coming one at a time with the plans to extend our misery for MONTHS! The second one is most of the way through (as near as I can tell from an occaisional glance and feel- of course she won't let me have a proper look...)

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