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I'm just curious - is there an age or age range when most kids will want to wean? I'd like to nurse E for as long as possible, but I'm just wondering...
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I've heard the average age to self wean is 4 years old.

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The best study indicates the natural weaning age for humans is between 2-1/2 to 7. This is based on many factors, including molars, birth weight, head size, etc. I can't remember the author of the study, but "Attachment Parenting" by Katie Granju sites this study. So does Dr. Newman's book, I think.

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Also remember that it IS possible to nudge your older nursling towards weaning as nursing progresses. Say you have a child who would naturally wean closer to 7, and you've had enough by the time she's 4 or 5, you won't "have to" continue with strict child-led-weaning just because you didn't wean before age 2.5.

My advice regarding nursing is to just relax and enjoy your child, and see where it goes. Maybe it will lead to a child-led weaning, and maybe it will lead to a mutual weaning or even a mother-led weaning in the future, depending on what both of your needs are at that time.

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Also remember that it IS possible to nudge your older nursling towards weaning as nursing progresses.
This is true. My son very gently weaned with my assistance when he turned three. I was in so much pain trying to nurse while pregnant ...I never thought he'd happily go along...but he's been fine with it! I'm so happy actually. I didn't realize how much I want him to wean until it happened.


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My advice regarding nursing is to just relax and enjoy your child, and see where it goes. Maybe it will lead to a child-led weaning, and maybe it will lead to a mutual weaning or even a mother-led weaning in the future, depending on what both of your needs are at that time.
I agree! Just relax and see where the nursing relationship takes you! You just never know.

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My advice regarding nursing is to just relax and enjoy your child, and see where it goes. Maybe it will lead to a child-led weaning, and maybe it will lead to a mutual weaning or even a mother-led weaning in the future, depending on what both of your needs are at that time.
Based on this, here is a question for you:

My daugher is only 11 months old and seems to be showing signs of wanting to wean. I really do believe that she no longer wants to nurse. I want to continue nursing, but she'll have none of it. Any thoughts on that?
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Based on this, here is a question for you:

My daugher is only 11 months old and seems to be showing signs of wanting to wean. I really do believe that she no longer wants to nurse. I want to continue nursing, but she'll have none of it. Any thoughts on that?
I like this article from kellymom:
http://www.kellymom.com/bf/weaning/babyselfwean.html

I went through a period with dd when she was 6-8 months where she was less interested in nursing- mostly wanted to do it asleep. : It passed and after that she was back to her booby fiend self. That was when she was learning to sit, pullup, crawl and walk along furniture.. alll at once. : So it could very well be a developmental thing (or teething- molars are very hard to deal with sometimes!) with your little one as well. IMO at that age I would do everything I could to keep my LO nursing... it will likely pick up once this stage passes. I know nursing has literally been a lifesaver for dd a few times when she's gotten sick..
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The best study indicates the natural weaning age for humans is between 2-1/2 to 7. This is based on many factors, including molars, birth weight, head size, etc. I can't remember the author of the study, but "Attachment Parenting" by Katie Granju sites this study. So does Dr. Newman's book, I think.

I believe you are referring to Katherine Dettwyler:

http://www.kathydettwyler.org/detwean.html

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I : that article! It's my new favorite for people who ask how long I'll nurse DS. It makes so much sense.

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what a great article! thanks for sharing it!!!!!!

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My daugher is only 11 months old and seems to be showing signs of wanting to wean. I really do believe that she no longer wants to nurse. I want to continue nursing, but she'll have none of it. Any thoughts on that?
At age 11 months she is still too young to wean. She developmentally shouldn't be eating enough solid food to wean too. I wouldn't allow a child to wean themselves under the age of two I would continue to offer and if there was too much solid intake I would stop the solid foods and increase the nursing. Is there a way maybe you can try to nurse her in a quite setting?
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The 2.5-7 is what I've read too, with 3-4 being the average for child-led weaning in the U.S. I don't know if I'll do child-led weaning. DS is 3.5, so it may appear to others that I'm doing it. My original plan was just a year. I never imagined I'd still be nursing. (Much less tandem nursing!) I don't know if I'll want to nurse a 6 or 7 year old, or even a 5 year old. I can't see that far into the future since I've never had a child who's that age. We'll know when we get there. But for right now, it works for us.
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I remember when I said I'd try to go for a year and wasn't sure if I could even do that as a mama who'd had a breast reduction. I was soooo thrilled that we could nurse that here she is tapping on two and I'm still so thrilled to be able to breastfeed that I'm all for CLW at this point.

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Based on this, here is a question for you:

My daugher is only 11 months old and seems to be showing signs of wanting to wean. I really do believe that she no longer wants to nurse. I want to continue nursing, but she'll have none of it. Any thoughts on that?
It sounds like it might be a nursing strike. Does she get solids yet? Does she take a cup? Has something changed in her life recently (learning to walk, becoming more independent,etc) All of those things can dramatically change her nursing styles and patterns, sometimes permanently and sometimes just temporarily.

DS went through many short strikes before deciding to wean at 15 months. DD never went through any and is still going strong at just over 4 yrs.

If you want to continue nursing, I would still offer and encourage the breast but don't force it. Forcing can turn them off even quicker because of negative associations.
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I did CLW and both my dd's, who are 4 years apart, weaned themselves just short of turning 2. One was at 21 months, one at 22 months, so that was kind of funny that they both did it at nearly the same age. I know they were ready, I however was not. <sigh>

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Based on this, here is a question for you:

My daugher is only 11 months old and seems to be showing signs of wanting to wean. I really do believe that she no longer wants to nurse. I want to continue nursing, but she'll have none of it. Any thoughts on that?
Without a doubt, it's a nursing strike. Cut back on the solids. Always nurse before solids. No other sucking (bottles, pacifiers, sippy cups) Offer often. Co-sleep.

At that age some babies need to be encouraged to nurse as much as they need to.

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My daugher is only 11 months old and seems to be showing signs of wanting to wean. I really do believe that she no longer wants to nurse. I want to continue nursing, but she'll have none of it. Any thoughts on that?
I think she may be in pain from teething.

Thanks for posting the article lissabob.
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