See, I see this so differently. I am a person who believes everyone does what they think is best for their family. People dont wean because they are trying to hurt their children, or bottle feed because they are trying to hurt them. They do what they know is best for them.
I bottle fed my twins. I tried to nurse for 3 weeks and was a zombie. I couldnt think straight, they needed supplements because I just didnt have enough for 2 at first. I wasnt getting any sleep, they just wanted to stay latched on all the time, which with 2 is not possible unless your sitting in a chair in the middle of the night when they are newborns. I quit because I was a better mom with sleep and patience then sleep deprived zombie. Am I selfish to you? Maybe, but to me, that was best for my family. I was devestated to stop nursing. I didnt even have a huge supply of bottles because I wasnt planning on bottles. I cried for weeks. But I know my kids are healthy, happy 19 month olds
Everyone does things differently. I think nursing after a certain point in a childs life is wrong. I am not going to go pass judgement on that person, to each his own.
I dont co-sleep. I cant. Tried, and COULDNT sleep. I woke up every 2 seconds. Joshua went into his bed at 3 weeks old, in the other room. He is exclusivly breastfed, and sleep perfectly through the night now that he isnt in my room. 10 hours at night. Most of you dont agree he should go that long. He is 18 lbs, he is growing just fine, and my supply is just fine with him going that long. So that is what is good for us.
I think people shouldnt feel bad for others children for something that is safe, and their own choice. Obviously is a child is beat, neglected, feel bad, even say something. But if someone wants to wean at 12 months, You dont know why. Get over it. To each his or her own, nursing till 12 months is a good lenght these days when women wont even stay home with their children (FIRM believer in SAHMing... but i KNOW sometimes that just ISNT possible. Dont judge though).
BTW, took my son in yesterday, he is exclusivly breastfed, and he has an ear infection.... Younger then Elijah did and he was bottle fed. Elizabeth was bottle fed, and has never had one. The twins sat unassited at 5 months, perfectly. Joshua is almost 7 and is not there yet. Elijah cruised and crawled at 6 months, again, joshua doesnt even get on his knees. Elijah was bottle fed, Joshua is EB.
My only point is that people who choose to bottle feed are not making their kids stupid. My bottle fed children are EXTREMELY intellegent. My breast fed baby is farther behind. I dont feel I did the twins a disservice by bottlefeeding them, although all future babies will be nursed.