Ewwwww, I just feel awful. Maybe I'll go offer my 3+ year old some nuh-nuh. I'd have nursed her little one. How in the world could she refuse those cries?!?!?
DD 9 DS 7 yrs
yeah, it seems like the author would have not stopped nursing, if not for the husband's insistence. i don't like that the man was telling her what to do, and she was obeying him, against what both she and the daughter wanted. quoting from the article, post-weaning:
<i>I had nothing to offer her that was mine and mine alone to give. </i>
the breastmilk/the nursing is between the mother and the child. why on earth is the man's opinion prevailing?
My husband tries to physically KEEP me and DS from breastfeeding. I HATE it. He's a bully. He'd LOVE it if I left my nursing two year old to go on a trip. Ain't.Gonna.Happen.
I've had a lot of pressure from my daughter's father too. It really sucks.
The contrast between the implicit knowledge the little girl from the first article has gained about the world and that the little boy from the second article has gained is great. Such implicit knowledge is something you carry with you forever, though you can't put your finger on it. Your reality, the universe as you know it, comes into being based on implicit knowledge gained from experiences like these.
People drink milk that came out of a cow's udder their entire adult lives, but they think it's crazy to breastfeed into toddler and childhood.
My ex-husband who has not been much of a part of our children's lives for over two years thinks he has a say in when I choose to wean our youngest son. He left us for another woman when my youngest was less than a year old and now he thinks he can tell me when to wean? After reading the essay linked in the first post, I will dig my heels in deeper.
Why do men think that they should have say in this? Breastfeeding a child is a natural phenomenon.... grrrrr.... articles like this and dealing with my ex make me so mad!!!
Even if I were to wean now (which I'm not) I think that my 17 month old would understand a lot more if I talked to her about it.
It just seems like a blatant disregard of her daughter's feelings, I guess I almost felt like she was undermining her daughter as person, with no feelings. The way she went about it really saddens.
Newly married to Patrick Expecting someone new in April!
Mountain Biking Mama of 3 little beans, . Epumped 22mths for dd1 (2006)
Nursed my babe, dd2 (2008) until self weaned at 3yrs. We survived a major nursing strike.
Awesome for Baby #3 who turned out to be a (Aug 2013)!
But weaning like that without even talking to her child about it beforehand? Just out of the blue? And then sticking to it even though the mother obviously would not have minded and the child so obviously did not want to wean? That's just . . . too sad.
Me 41, single mom to dd 4/2001 and ds 7/17/2010
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