NYC here, nursing a 3 1/2 year old. I know at least a dozen people nursing 3 and up year olds. And most of them nurse in public, whereas dd's cut back to just a few times a day, so we just nurse at home and at LLL and API meetings.
I'm in St. Paul, MN, tandem nursing 3.5 and 1.5 yo. I'm not even the outlier - I have a friend who nursed (and NIP) her daughter until age 5.
I don't NIP much with the older one, but often when I do someone comes up and tells me they nursed a child til age 2 or older. So, yeah, I think extended nursing happens more than is obvious to the casual observer.
ETA: Around here it is not unusual to see someone nursing a toddler. Nursing a preschooler is when you become "unusual".
Hi everyone! We're here in the lovely California central coast- San Luis Obispo- nursing an almost 4 yo and a 3 mo old! It's great to "see" so many of you! I know of one other person nursing a 3.5 year old- most stop before 2.
Ds2 is turned 3 in July, and is still nursing. Not a whole lot - mainly when he gets tired in the afternoon, or when he gets really hurt. He nurses briefly at night, but then just rolls over, drinks some water and goes to sleep. He asks to nurse a lot more, but I offer hugs or something to drink instead, and most of the time he is fine with that.
I wanted to just share my favorite extended nursing story. DD and I went to the Met Museum when she was, I think, about 18 months old, and she wanted to nurse, of course, when we got to the room of Mary Cassatt and similar paintings of babies nursing, etc. So I found a decently comfortable chair and started nursing. A little girl about 4 came up and watched us very intently. Then she sat down next to us, still watching closely with an odd expression, but not saying a word. I was really getting a little nervous, b/c I was somehow sure that the mother was going to come over and tell me I shouldn't be doing *that* in front of her daughter though dd and I were pretty discrete. Low and behold, finally the mother comes over, smiles at me and her dd, and says "Do you miss nursing?" to her dd! Then tells me that her daughter weaned recently but she's totally fascinated by nursing. That was the best.
I want to be that Mama, but I can't see my dd ever sitting silently watching a nursing mother. She'd probably shout "LOOK MAMA! NURSIES!" joyously.
I live near Beanma (she posted on the first page). We're in the Triangle area of NC. I know a handful of other moms that are nursing 3+ year olds. DS is 3 years, 7 months and nursing mostly morning and bedtime (and I'm nursing a 9 month old as well).
Hi - I'm still nursing my daughter - she'll be 5 in Nov. I'm in East Central MN. I don't know anyone else IRL nursing an almost 5 year old. Although one of my aunts did CLW with all 4 of her kids - so I grew up seeing 3 & 4 year olds nurse.
I'm in Central MN, Tandem nursing, a 4.5 yo and a 20 month old.
I know two other mama's still nursing children about the same age as my DD, although now that I think of it, one of them may have recently weaned, I haven't asked lately, even though we see them at least weekly Its definitely not common around here though.
I'm in MN. My current nursling is almost 4. I guess I'm lucky, I've known a fair number of people who nurse older children or do CLW... Although it's not common, it's not uncommon in the circles I travel in.
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I am in Florida. My son just turned three today and we are still nursing about 6 or more times a day. I know two other moms in my AP group that are nursing a 4 and 5 year old. It is so encouraging to hear about other moms nursing their older children. Thanks to all of you for inspiring me to keep on keeping on.
Connecticut. However, other than my immediate family, I don't think anyone knows I'm still nursing him (he turned 3 two weeks ago). It just doesn't come up in conversation anymore, and he pretty much only asks for it when I'm sitting down somewhere at home , before bed and in the morning. It's like his version of coffee.
I've got to say I would feel really uncomfortable NIP now. He's a really big boy -- 95th percentile height and weight. I don't think I could handle the withering looks at this point, which might make me a bad lactivist, I know. But I can be honest with y'all.
I am nursing my 3 year old (and his 7 month old brother) in Southern Maine too! I also don't know anyone else who is nursing a child as old as mine and I am getting tired of the weird looks from others!
It is really nice to know that there are more of us out there in this area!!!
I'm in Oregon and my daughter just turned 3 and is still nursing. I nursed her brother to 3 1/2. I know several women who have nursed over the age of 3. I've not been comfortable NIP at this age, though. Except for one time -- at an unschooling conference here there were others mothers nursing older kids in public. I couldn't believe it! It was so cool.
South Florida. There are lots of others like me here. Well, no, not strictly true. I just tend to limit myself to hanging out mostly with the kind of people who find it normal to have an over 3yo nursing. So we never give it any thought.
BeanBean will be five in November; He still nurses. Not much now that I'm pregnant, but I have no doubt that he'll want to nurse again when the baby comes. He'll probably nurse once or twice when the milk comes back and then go back to nursing right before everyone else gets sick.
Rynna, Mama to Bean (8), Boobah (6), Bella (4) and Bear (2)
I'm in Connecticut - and currently tandem nursing my 5 year old and 2 year old (my oldest self-weaned at age 5, my second nursling recently self-weaned a few weeks before his 7th birthday) and am 23 weeks pregnant! There are lots of FNLCT mamas who are nursing 3+ year olds - I feel blessed to have my kids growing up around friends who have nursed well past infancy!
My ds will be 3 in 2 months and I seriosly doubt he'll quit nursing by then. We live in WAY Northern California in a little bubble that's extremely liberal. It's not uncommon here to see 2 and 3 yo's nursing, and occasionally you'll see 4,5,6 yo's too!
Stella, wild and gentle mama to Toby(12/14/04), Cedar(8/17/08), Luca (3/15/14), and one on the way!
I'm in Mid-Michigan, nursing (well not RIGHT at this moment!) my 4.5 year-old and 2 year-old. I know one person irl from Lansing who nursed her oldest until he was 4-ish and I'm pretty sure her youngest (3 yo) is still nursing. I've never seen anyone else around here with an older nursling, but then, I don't really nurse in public that much anymore myself; the kids don't usually ask for it unless we're cuddling on the couch at home!