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But for other reasons, me needing space, wanting her to last through the homebirth etc. I think we are going to nightwean. I finally feel more tired & more needing of space than I do wanting the closeness, and that is a HUGE shift for me.
So far in conversations she has been remarkably receptive to the whole thing, even saying she wants to move into her own room (ironic, since we don't really have a 2nd bedroom!) We'll see how reasonable she is in the middle of the night...
I was just coming here for some support myself. My 27 mo DD is also very highly sensitive. She's never been away from me overnight and has always nursed to sleep. I've tried somewhat to nightwean her (several different times). It's not happening. It has caused the daytime nursing sessions to be even more intense. She's now asking to nurse twice every hour. She stays latched on for 30 min - 1 hour at each session (if I let her). Talk about overwhelming! It's very confusing to me that my toddler is nursing more than my newborn. I've also noticed that I'm becoming very short with my toddler. I feel like our entire relationship is centered around my "milks", and when she doesn't get milks when she wants, she throws a tantrum. I'm beginning to forget why it is that I want to CLW.
breastfeeding, babywearing, homeschooling Heathen parent to my little Wanderer, 7 1/2 , and baby Elf-stone, 3/11!
I need support too! I have a 39 month old, and I still pretty much nurse on demand, and all night long (it seems). Especially as morning approaches, she'll latch on to one side then the other, 4-5 times, while twiddling the other nipple. Finally, I will have had enough, and my nipples are hurting, so I tell her that mommy's nipples need a rest and would she let go. Often she latches on harder, and if she does let go, cries, and throws somewhat of a tantrum. I try to hold her and comfort her and empathize with her, but it doesn't seem to "work;" we keep going through the same struggles. I'm a single parent; daddy keeps saying I haven't set enough limits and boundaries around nursing and that is why dd can't spend the night with him. Reading what you all have said, it sounds like it might be helpful to just make a plan that on a certain night she is going to spend the night with daddy, and maybe I should even go out of town or otherwise not be available, should he get frustrated and want to bring her back to me. I don't know if that would be the best strategy or if I should try to night wean her myself first. I did try 2-3 times when she was 2 1/2 ish, twice I backed down when she got sick and then finally, when daddy left, I didn't want to traumatize her by trying again. But it has been about 8 months now, so I think it would be okay to try again. She just doesn't want to give it up! Any suggestions?? (we do co-sleep, she has a bed, but says she isn't "old enough" for it).
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