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This is a great thread. Thanks everyone! Really nice and heartwarming to read.

Mine had gone right off the nursing but now I'm making colostrum so she is a hardcore again. I've introduced the concept that at 5.5 she will be weaned and then we will get bunkbeds for her and her sib... we shall see how that goes. I won't nurse til 6 myself... 5.5 is my limit. DD is not overly enthused about the weaning but does want bunkbeds.
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if you want to know what this will look like:
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found this one after watching yours.... truly beautiful.
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my dd will be 4 on the first day of spring. she's nursing just like her older brothers had done at her age so she'll probably be nursing for awhile still. the oldest recently weaned about 6 mos ago at 7 1/4, while the 2nd who is not quite 6 1/2 is down to once every other week or so (unless sick....which nursing is such a blessing). funny how a year ago the older two were nursing at least twice a day and now even the 2nd is just about weaned.

i don't really know who all knows in IRL how long my children bf or who is still. when they see me nurse my youngest (i'm talking public events), if they realize he is nursing, some are just wrapping their minds around that, so they would never dream of wondering about my other children. and my dd still NIP, but not often. breastfeeding an older child never comes up in conversation unless your family is profiled in a baby magazine that shows pictures of your kids and states when they've weaned or still bf, etc.
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I'm nursing a 4 y/o (9/03). She weaned a few months ago but decided she wanted to continue nursing. I'm also nursing her 19 month old sister.
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i nursed DS until he self weaned the week of his 5th birthday. he still likes to reach down my shirt and hold it when hes feeling stressed out or sad, now he is almost 6.5. I am just curious what it is like to nurse an 8 year old. other than in the movie "the last emporer", i dont think I have ever heard of a child nursing beyong 5 or 6. this is totally not a knock on your breastfeeding relationship with DC, as a formerly nursing mom of a school aged child i am honestly just very curious!
don't know how to explain. what exactly do you want to know?
i think age is not a relevant category. children don't grow up over night. it's a very slow process, there is no due date, you don't wake up one morning and think "oh, now she's too old".
of course there is a difference between nursing a newborn and nursing a school aged child, but i couldn't describe the changes and when they happened. in the last few years there weren't many differences, only the frequency (twice a day morning and bedtime, once a day bedtime, every other day, week...). the 2 years between age 1 and 3, when she started to sign and talk (about nursing ), were more "exciting" than the last 2 years between age 6 and 8.
now nursing is more like a ritual or a symbol. it's still part of our relationship, but it's not that important anymore.

would you recommend this movie? i haven't seen it yet, but when nursing an older child is mentioned in it... :
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yes, it is an amazing film, the emporer is a child and he is still nursed, i think at 12 years of age by his wet-nurse/nanny.

as far as nursing a child over the age of say 5 (since this is how long i had experience nursing), i just wonder how the child percieves breastfeeding, how your family incorpoates nursing as normal, ect. by the time my son was 4-5 i think people assumed he had weaned, except when we were with my parents i really didnt nurse in public. he just usually didnt need to nurse when we were out and about, it was pretty sparce after the age of 4.5, like once every couple days.
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[QUOTE=arismama!;10214879]yes, i just wonder how the child percieves breastfeeding, how your family incorpoates nursing as normal, ect.


Dd was totally shocked to learn that not only not ALL children were bf'd, but that those who were only nursed when they were little babies!LOL
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Mine was nursing like crazy at a birthday party today. One little girl was staring in rapt fascination, and a mama I know made a comment that eventually she will need to be cut off, but mostly it was no big deal. Which is nice. My kid is still totally un-self-conscious about nursing, at 4. When children ask questions I can tell she is proud to be fussed over.

I don't know when this will change, but for now it's no biggie at all.
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Hi, I'm Sam, and I am new. I just wanted to say I understand the feeling that no one around is nursing when you are, I had never nursed beyond 10 1/2 month, so I never guessed I would still once and a while be nursing our 5 1/2 year old and tandeming with our 3 year old! At first I got a lot of flak from co-workers and friends who never had heard of such a thing, but they just hadn't ever experienced it. Finding other mamas on the computer helped me know I really wasn't alone in what I was doing and how I was feeling and gave me the support I needed to continue listening to my instincts that simply continuing something that means very much to them and only adds love and comfort to their lives is certainly right for us! :
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I can't see DD quitting in the next month (she'll be 4 in Feb). Especially since she has gone back to nursing to sleep, the last couple week.

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My oldest nursling will be 4 in March.

I rarely go to LLL, but when I do there is at least 2 women nursing kids who are over 5.

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Hi, everybody! I am nursing my second 4 year old. He keeps on saying he is going to stop but I doubt it! This is going to sound really silly, but I had kind of forgotten it was unusual to nurse a 4 year old until I read this thread! It just seems such a normal part of life and child rearing at this point! My dd is now 9 and still seems so proud of her nursing heritage.
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4 1/2 yo Alannah still LOVES the nummies and wants them fairly often. She loves to just gaze at them too. She tandems with 9 mo Leela.
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I am not sure if I am still nursing my 4 year old.
Weeks will pass and I will have thought that nursing was a thing of the past, and then my ds will have an urgent need; a fall, an day of overstimulation etc, etc, and we will nurse for usually a few moments. Every once in awhile, he will pull away with a huge smile on his face and shout "Milk! There is some milk in there!" I don't think I'm lactating much, and I think his latch has gotten sloppy, but it is still something he treasures. Even during those times he forgets about nursing, he often pats my breasts and smiles.

The only thing that saddens me about this process is I never know which time will be the last time!
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. . . Weeks will pass and I will have thought that nursing was a thing of the past, and then my ds will have an urgent need . . .
Really? I didn't know it worked like this!

I have been invited to attend a workshop in another state that would keep me away from DS for 4 days. I've said no because I thought my supply would dry up (or I'd get enormous and sore) and it might end our nursing relationship unnaturally. I suppose I could take a pump, but it's been so long since I've pumped I don't even know where mine is.

Do you think I should go?
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I am currently nursing my DS, he will be 6 in April. He and I just do it when we feel like it and it has come to a point where no one in the family gets it anymore.

I wish I didn't have to be so self conscious about it. I love it, he loves it, it is a blessing when we are sick or just needing a moment of quiet bonding. He is down to about 3 times a week. I have no clue when we will stop, I just know it has been the right thing for us.
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DD was 4 on 11/29/07. I am tandeming with her 20 mo brother. Oh, and his dolls, trucks, dinosaurs, etc.

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I have been invited to attend a workshop in another state that would keep me away from DS for 4 days. I've said no because I thought my supply would dry up (or I'd get enormous and sore) and it might end our nursing relationship unnaturally. I suppose I could take a pump, but it's been so long since I've pumped I don't even know where mine is.

Do you think I should go?
How old is your child? 4, right? I didn't nurse my DD for 3 days once due to medication I took, and our nursing relationship was fine. I don't have a lot of milk anyway so that is not what it is primarily about, although she does drastically decrease nursing when my milk supply decreases (as in the first part of this pregnancy). I didn't notice, nor did she report, a decrease when we went 3 days without, and I didn't get engorged. However, it was emotionally difficult for her to go without nursing and that made the whole thing pretty torturous. Although that may be different if you are physically not there - I was physically there but saying no to nursing, which was hard.
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Dd was totally shocked to learn that not only not ALL children were bf'd, but that those who were only nursed when they were little babies!LOL
Yeah, Maya sometimes points out this new and interesting fact that some babies only use bottles! (Shocked.) I try not to be too sad about it, because I really believe that we mothers ought to focus on our things-in-common, but, I'm honest with her about it, too.

Maya's 4.5 and I think she's starting to consider the fact that just about none of her friends nurse anymore... I do wonder how that is affecting her. (She only talks about it in bits...)

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My 4.5 year old nurses about once a week or so, and I'm also nursing her 20 month old sister. My mom was an LLL leader, and nursed my baby sister until age 4.5- I only nursed to after 3, 3.5. My sister has the straightest teeth, and least allergies, etc. of all of us.
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Hi! Triandeming here. My 5, 3 and 7 month old all breastfeed, although it's really more the 3 yr old and baby who nurse. My oldest nurses maybe twice a day, and not for very long, and is very compliant about ending the nursing if it is uncomfortable to me.

It was a long time ago since my first was younger and I was hoping he'd wean during my second pregnancy. I yearned for him to wean, but after my first experience of tandem nursing, we worked out a lot of kinks, gentle discipline, and me just plain gaining more patience...I see him continuing to breastfeed as being very beneficial for him and me. It's been the right fit for our family, even with all the adjustments and occasional, periodic night-weaning (knowing my boundaries and communicating them in acceptable ways).

Also, I became a LLL Leader 2 years ago, after I had my second child. The first thing I did, besides lead the Series meeting for new moms, was to start a Toddler meeting for mothers nursing children over age 1!!!! I started it b/c there was no support for moms like me, even in LLL. It's hard for me to lead this many meetings sometimes, too busy, but we try to meet whenever moms request it.

You could ask the Leader/s in the group you've attended to have a toddler playgroup at a member's home, or ask if they know of any other mothers of nursing children you could talk with.

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Our DS will be 4 yo in 2-weeks and I assume he'll still be nursing.
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wow...amazing...I thought I was the only one still at it

my youngest just turned 4 last week...and he still nurses (and co-sleeps)...probably 2-4 times in a 24 hour period

the longest I have ever been away from him is six hours (when I went to a scrapbook party at my friends house!)

I love how it is the cure-all...for bumps and bruises...and soooo many times I have been so thankful he is still nursing like when he had the flu and couldnt keep down anything but his "mi-mi" and that is all he wanted

he also spent the first couple years of his life dealing with failure to thrive issues (according to doctors charts) and testings and specialists...and even his nutritionist said...that breastmilk is the icing on the cake and keep it up for extra calories even though I couldnt measure it (never pumped and dont own a pump or bottle)

Kudos to all my extended nursing mamas!!!!
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My oldest will be five in April and he still nurses. He's been slowing down for over a year. Before I got pregnant with my now six week old, my oldest would nurse about once every week or two. Then when I got pregnant, he went back to once every few days. In the six weeks we've had our new baby, he's nursed, about 3 or 4 times. He was excited that the milk is sweet. There have been times he has asked to nurse when I was too busy with the baby and I told him he would have to wait. But then when I later said now is a good time to nurse, he lost interest. I don't know how much longer he will continue. He rarely nurses in public which is his choice. Though when I was eight months pregnant and visiting relatives on Long Island, he wanted to nurse in a pizzaria. Which I have to admit was a little difficult for me, but I did it. I never hide it. Recently, a woman I am acquainted with was mentioning something from the past and said, was that when we were still nursing? And I smiled and said, well I know I was because Mez still nurses. Her eyes just about popped out of her face.

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Now I can join officially DD was 4 a few days ago. Though she has actually gone to sleep without nursing the last few night (which is nice).

nothing more to say I guess :
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DD will be 4 in April and according to her - she's gonna nurse until she's about 7 We'll see about that - lol!
Do we have the same child?
I am also nursing a four-years-old-in -April girly girl...
who wants to nurse till 10 she says:
and a little 18lb pixie boy whos 16months

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Do we have the same child?
I am also nursing a four-years-old-in -April girly girl...
who wants to nurse till 10 she says:
Okay yeah so what do you (general you) do/think/feel about this? Coz mine says pretty much the exact same thing... I'm nursing til I'm ten, Im nursing til I'm a mama, when I'm a mama I will come over to your house and nurse.

Like, when you are doing CLW and the child is, well... not leading ... WTF do you do? I'm not prepared to nurse til the end of time. I will not nurse a 6 year old, that is my limit. I told mine we would wean when she is 5.5. She was aghast, and kept bringing it up at school and her teacher told me it was causing her anxiety.

I don't want to push weaning but OTOH I do have an end date.
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I scanned all the posts, and I think I beat all of you. Mine is older than every "baby" here, but younger than the emperor. We stopped nursing in public a long time ago. Even here, I am afraid of saying the age, can you tell? She will only nurse for a few seconds at a time every few days or weeks, and each time she will proudly and happily proclaim, "MILK!" I wonder how I can lactate if she doesn't nurse for weeks on end?

I hear that Native American's nursed their babies until they were as old as fourteen, I don't think I will do that ...

However, when I started my nursing journey, my goal was 3 months, because that was what was recommended, and the more I read the longer my goal became, ok, one year, ok, I can do two, etc.

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