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#151 of 172 Old 08-26-2008, 05:14 PM
 
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Nope. My mom breastfed me for a few months. I know she went back to work when I was an infant and presumably stopped then. She tried to breastfeed my brother but ended up having tolerance issues and eventually feeding him goat's milk.

My mother-in-law tried to nurse her first son and wasn't successful. I think she nursed for 3 days or something. With her second (my husband), she was offered a "shot to keep her from making milk" that she took (and didn't work, by the way).

My mom's mom didn't nurse any of her daughters because of inverted nipples.

My dad's mom did nurse him for about a year and then was told to wean him because he was sapping all of her strength and the milk wasn't doing him any good anyways.
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I was born in S. Korea in 1972. My mom told me back then, she thought formula was better for babies because that's what she heard Americans fed their babies. She said she tried to breastfeed me but that I rejected the breast. She also said the in-vogue parenting approach then was to NEVER pick up your baby, lest you spoil them. Also, we had live-in help when I was a baby, so I guess I never had much physical contact with my mom as a baby. It's no wonder to me that I have so little emotional attachment to my mother that I sometimes wonder if there's something wrong with me.

At least my lack of attached parenting put me in the opposite direction when it came to my daughter, who's still nursing at almost 4 years of age and sleeps cozied up next to me.
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I was bf-ed until I was four! I do remember nursing and don't feel weird about it. We did not co-sleep family bed style but my mom did not believe in CIO either. I wasn't vaccinated, was born unmediated and began vegetarian after discovering a meat allergy when I was 2. My mom did great with that stuff considering how awful her childhood was.

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Nope. I wasn't even put to the breast once. I was the third daughter and she said she tried to nurse the first two but never had enough milk from the get-go and that "the babies needed to eat" so she didn't even bother trying with me or my two younger brothers. I don't know if I had formula or cows milk. I was born in 1984. She isn't very supportive of breastfeeding, either. She is all for it, up to about 6 months. My daughter is 11 months and my mom always asks when I will wean her. A cousin was still nursing her 18 month old daughter and my mom thought it was pretty gross. She definitely thinks that formula or cows milk is as good as breastmilk. She is very surprised I was able to breastfeed...

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my mom BFed me for a couple months then switched to cows milk because I had colic. I've talked to her about wanting to let my baby self-wean, and I think it made her feel defensive or insulted... at any rate she's expressed that she doesn't think there are legitimate benefits for BFing toddlers.

How have other people dealt with this sort of response from your moms (if you've experienced it)?
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My mom breastfed me until about 13 months when she got pregnant with my younger brother. She says that she probably would have kept going if the situation was different, but she was working full time (which she'd been doing since I was 3 months!) so pumping all that time, and the pregnancy really knocked her out. Something had to give, so it was no more boobies for me
I'll have to ask her if I went to milk or formula...and also how I reacted! I don't have any memories/associations with nursing, though I've always been very determined to do it and went through 2 hard first months with ds, but persevered and now am going strong at 12 months. So I assume it was a positive experience overall. (Though I've always wondered if there wasn't a small resentment based on being weaned before being ready...) And my mom is totally supportive, she rocks!

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I Totally remember nursing! I have a one true memory that sticks out we were on a road trip from IL. to Montana and I can remember stopping at a truck stop to play and then nurse I was 3. My mom nursed all five of her children b/t 12m to 4 years. We are truly fortunate to have had that. I love nursing my son who is 14 months and I think he loves it too!
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Nope, my mom nursed all of us for 9 months. since it's all at the same age obviously it wasn't CLW. pro-nursing and all, my family had a lot to say about me nursing my first daughter for almost 2 years. and with me second baby who is now 6mo i really hope for CLW.
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I was FF from birth "due to" my mother being on antibiotics for an episiotomy infection. But...
My husband was the last child and CLW'ed when he was four, at which point he walked up to his mother, swatted at her breasts, and said "These cans are empty!" That was that. That was around 1978. We love this story and sharing it. It always gets a laugh.
I feel so lucky that my MIL is so supportive of my still breastfeeding at 16 mos. unlike my own mother who always has some snide remark.
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My mom nursed me until some time around my 3rd birthday. My parents did a ton of international travel from our first trip when I was 6 weeks old (in 1970) to Japan for 6 months and it went on like that. My mom said she had to nurse me for so long because you could not always trust the water etc in foreign countries. I don't know that my mom minded or anything, it's just that she's said many times she had to not so much wanted to. She nursed my brother for a while I know but she had some serious problems with him and he had allergies to things in her milk or something and she switched him to cows milk then later to soy formula once it was determined it was a milk allergy.
I don't remember nursing at all. My brother is 4 years younger than me and I sort of remember him nursing.
I have no idea how long I'm going to find myself nursing. My oldest stopped when I was pregnant with his brother, he was 2 going on 3, though he nursed a few times after his brother was born. My youngest is still nursing and he's 4, going to be 5 in December but he's really cutting back and will skip a few days now so I think we're winding down.
My mom had a great OB who was very against the "norm". My dad was let into the delivery room when it was taboo. My mom also joined LLL way back then too.
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My Mom says all her 5 kids were CLW. But the longest any of us nursed was 18mos. She really did cut the feedings down to once or twice a day by a year old. I "weaned" when I was 16mos old. She said I bit her and she overreacted, yelled NO and tapped me on the cheek. She said I got really angry and never nursed again...No matter what she tried I wouldn't nurse (can we say STRIKE??) It turns out she found out that week that she was pregnant so her milk may have tasted differently as well. She had tried Tandem nursing in the past and she couldn't due to it making morning sickness worse...So I probably would have been weaned anyway.

She did write in a journal she kept of my babyhood/toddlerhood, that after my brother was born that I would ask to nurse and talk about nursing "Sammy Nurse. Hannah Nurse too"...But she never let me try or I might have given it a go. I kinda wish she had been more informed, that it was "Okay" to let them have a shot at it if they are still interested...I believe that my immune system really would have benefited I had constant cold and ear infections when I was 2-6yrs old.

Oh and I actually do remember nursing, I think I kinda remember biting her and the tap on the cheek....The thing I mostly remember is just how cozy and safe it made me feel, and the smell of...COMFORT if that makes sense...Even growing up hugging or cuddling with her always brought that feeling back. I can totally relate why my DD (8 mos) loves BF so much.

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My mom says that she let all 4 of us nurse for as long as we wanted to. That meant 9 months for me and between 12 months and 18 months for my siblings.

BUT...in those days solids were introduced at 6 weeks, which leads to earlier weaning. And I'm not sure my mom would have known the difference between a nursing strike and weaning. She says that I suddenly wasn't interested in nursing anymore at 9 months.
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I weaned at around 2 years old. There is a story at the back of my baby book about when my mom realized our nursing relationship was coming to an end as I stopped asking for it. The story makes me cry thinking about my little one (now 15 months ever wanting to stop). My brother also self weaned around 2.
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I was born in S. Korea in 1972. My mom told me back then, she thought formula was better for babies because that's what she heard Americans fed their babies. She said she tried to breastfeed me but that I rejected the breast. She also said the in-vogue parenting approach then was to NEVER pick up your baby, lest you spoil them. Also, we had live-in help when I was a baby, so I guess I never had much physical contact with my mom as a baby. It's no wonder to me that I have so little emotional attachment to my mother that I sometimes wonder if there's something wrong with me.
Oh, hugs to you!

It's interesting, the difference between your mom and hubby's Korean mom. When MIL had her first, in Korea in the early 60s, although she had to work (at the USO club) her mom treated her son like a king. He didn't touch the floor until he was 1 or 2 (meaning, he didn't have to propel himself anywhere, she would carry him), someone there nursed him for a good while, they all slept together (MIL's husband, aka FIL, but not that boy's father just to complicate things, was away at sea and in America without them at that time), and so on.

When MIL, first son, and FIL moved to America in '71, she then had my husband, and alas was forbidden from doing all those things, not b/c MIL thought it was wrong, but b/c FIL pitched a fit. And then FIL went away (merchant marines by this time) to punish MIL for wanting a family bed, and at a regular checkup she misunderstood the doctor, and started feeding hubby meat at 2 weeks! She finally got a call into Seoul, her mother told him that Americans were crazy, and to stop feeding him solids, let alone straight meat!

I have sort of reminded MIL of her old values, that she had to push down in her head and heart, and at first that was painful for her and she fought against it. But as time has gone on, and especially when FIL (who has since died) expressed sorrow that he kept his bio-son and his daughter out of the big bed after seeing how much sleep hubby and I get, she has understood that I was just going "back" to the traditional Korean ways of doing things, even though I'm not Korean.

Oh, and she gave me one of her podegis, which was cool of her. Since it's padded and I tend towards being overwarm ever since DS arrived, I can't wear it much, and *never* wear it out since it's orange with embroidery saying "greenbud" on it (sigh, I don't think anyone understood what they were embroidering on it), I only wore it indoors, and wore my "America" slings instead (those newfangled pouches and mei tais you know). She thought those were weird, but I could never quite bring myself to tell her that I think someone was making a little joke with that embroidery, at her expense and at the expense of all the other women who bought it in Busan or Seoul (family is from B, some family now lives in S). No matter what, she loves that I wore him so much.


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My husband was the last child and CLW'ed when he was four, at which point he walked up to his mother, swatted at her breasts, and said "These cans are empty!" That was that. That was around 1978. We love this story and sharing it. It always gets a laugh.
Oh that's a terrific story!!!
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Nope, I was FF from birth as well.
Although my aunt nursed her kids to around 4 and the family thought she was completely weird for it
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Yes, my mom let all of use wean on our own. I nursed til I was 5, and I do remember it! My brother also nursed til he was 5, my sister stopped at 3.

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No, that would have been unthinkable. She said it was considered strange enough that she breastfed at all, and she weaned me at 14 months because people disapproved so strongly and it was hard on her feeling like she had to keep it a secret. This was in 1966-67. She's always been very pro-breastfeeding, though, and was delighted that I breastfed my babies. She did ask a few times when I was going to wean my first (he breastfed until he was 3.5) but hasn't said a word about the rest.
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My mom amd grandma told me several times about me not wanting to nurse, but staying atached at the breast and exploring the world. They always tried all sorts of things to get me to such. I guess it gave me confort to be at the breast. I have feelings of insecurity to this day, probably because I was weaned very early. At about three months mom says she lost her milk, but she was feeding me on a schedule, so maybe that was it. But I remember my brother being brestfed and that mom had a special smell of milk. I was very interested in the whole process, and I remember her offering the breast. She bfed him only 4-5 months accusing the same loss of milk, but I clearly remember how he fought because he hated the bottle and that it was such a frustrating moment for everyone in the house as he cried and cried until he was exhausted and only then accepted the nipple of the bottle. I'm sure she could have brestfed us for very long, but she just didn't know what was the problem and then pediatricians always giving bad advice or none at all. I am sorry to this day, but I never told her as she doesn't seem to have any remorse, she's very serene about it. Well I guess she was the best mother she could be considering the circumstances(we live in Romania, a comunist country at the time of my birth in 1984, and no info came through from abroad).

I haven't heard of brestfeeding strikes until this thread, what are they exactly and how do you deal with them?
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Yep! My mom and my Oma AND my great grandma all CLW!!! My great grandma nursed one of her daughters until she was 5.
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Yup! I was breastfed until around age 4-5, and I can remember it quite vividly. I used to wait until she was on the phone in her bedroom - when I heard the phone ring, I would run and jump in her lap and say "noonga noonga?" as I pulled up her top. Kind of funny that I called it "noonga noonga", when I was pretty articulate in every other respect.

My mum worked fulltime as well, so it was pretty amazing that she kept it going that long. She was just quite relaxed about the whole thing I guess, it was never an issue.
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My mom let both me and my younger sister lead the way to weaning. I was over three when the last entries in my baby book talk about still nursing and at that point she was already nursing my then 12 month old sister. My sister self-weaned at over four. I don't remember nursing, but remember snuggling in really close with a plaid tent shirt that I have seen in many tandem nursing photos... and then I only remember the smell of sweetness.

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Nope, FF from day 1 when the docs said I was too small to BF, i was born 3months premature.

My grandma FF all 4 her kids.

MIL FF her 2 kids.

I did have a aunt that nursed both cousins for 3 months each then weaned them to FF.

My mom actually nursed my brother for 4months before having to pump then giving up. She then went on to nurse my sister til she was almost 2 when she then cold turkey weaned her.

I plan to let my son CLW, he's a little over 2 and no sign of stopping anytime soon:. My daughter CLW at 18months old.


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