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I am interested to hear if there are any adults here whose mom did CLW. Can you remember nursing? I want to know about this!
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Heck no. It was soy formula for day 1 for me.

But my aunt did. She breastfed all three of her kids until they weaned themselves, in the 70s when around here only "hippies" breastfed at all. My youngest cousin nursed for the last time a few weeks after she started kindergarten, and she can remember nursing.

The family STILL hasn't stopped gossiping about how weird that was. When my middle cousin had her kids, the talk was all about how long SHE'D nurse her kids, like was she gonna be "weird" like her mother was. (She weaned her first at 2, and the others at around 18 months.)

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No, she breastfed me on a 3 hour schedule, giving me water in-between if I fussed. I was weaned suddenly at 3 months old when her doctor was shocked that I was still nursing and told her I needed to wean immediately to gain weight. She "rebelled" when my younger brother was born, nursing him on demand until he was 9 months old.

My mother went with the "status quo" for the time, but I was raised with the knowledge that all three of my cousins were born at home and nursed for several years each. I also remember being in Sunday School as a child and being told that it is believed that people in Biblical times nursed their children for years. I suppose I have always taken it for granted that breastfeeding practices are greatly cultural.
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I wish. I was FF'd.

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Nope, FF from day 1 when the docs said I was too small to BF.

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Weaned around 1 year old. I was my mother's second baby. When my older sister was 2 months old, a doctor told my mom that she had to immediately quite breastfeeding and use formula as the baby was not gaining weight. She did not nurse my sister ever again after leaving the doctor's office. (This was 34 years ago)

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My mother weaned each of us around 12-13 months.

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Kind of?

With the first 4, we each nursed until about month 6 of her next pregnancy. None of us were really comfort nursers, and we weaned ourselves when the milk disappeared.

With the last, she did don't offer, don't refuse until she was 3 and then went on a weekend trip when my sister was down to once a day.

I don't remember nursing (I was 18 months when I weaned due to her pregnancy with my next sib) but I remember her nursing babies (I was 13 when my youngest sister was weaned).
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My mom nursed each of her kids until about a year. She has no qualms with the fact that I plan to nurse longer though.

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My mom nursed us (I am a twin) exclusively for 5 months and then was given horrible advice from a doc that she needed to wean b/c she was having gallbladder surgery. Nursing us was her proudest accomplishement and I credit her for being a breastfeeder today. She always talked about it as being wonderful, natural, etc.
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No, my mom nursed me for like 5 months and then went to cow milk. She nursed my brother until he got teeth and bit her.
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I was nursed until I "weaned myself" at 11 months. Nursing strike I guess??

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Nope, I was ff'ed from day 1.
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Nope, I was FF from birth as well.

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Nope, I was FF from birth as well.
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No - she gave in to societal pressure when I was 2yo. I don't remember nursing per se, but I do remember climbing up into my mommy's lap with our special pillow, and being really really happy she was home and we got snuggle time.
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Nope, FF from day 1. I remember asking my mom if she nursed me when I was about 12. She had a look of shock and horror and said, "Don't you know what that does to your breasts?" : I felt sad and embarrassed I'd even asked.
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No. She nursed me till 6 months and that was it.

My MIL, however, CLW'd all 6 of hers!

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My mom was bf until about 22 months, when she was pregnant with my younger brother. She said her OB encouraged her to wean, but that I was losing interest as well, so I'm not sure if it was officially CLW or not.
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My mom tried sooooo hard to bf my oldest brother, who was born in 1958. My dad managed to take a beautiful role of pictures of my brother at the breast. But my mom had difficulties and had absolutely no support. She had 4 kids and we were all ff'ed.

She is so in awe of my successful bf'ing. She's still a little sad about the way things turned out for her, over 40 years later. I love her so much.
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My mom thinks she did CLW but in reality she didn't know how to handle a nursing strike in a newly walking 11mo. She says I weaned on the same day I took my first steps.

Still, nursing for 11m isn't bad for 1973!

My oldest brother nursed until he died at 6.5mo (SIDS) and my older brother nursed until around 6mo when she found out she was pg with me and her OB told her to wean. None of us ever had formula, as the advice at the time was to switch from formula to cow's milk at 6mo.

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My mom believes she did CLW with us, and I suppose for the times (70's and early 80's), it was essentially that..... As well as it could be given the information she had and was given.

I weaned at 10 months when she was 4 months pregnant with my next sister (it was abrupt, a nursing strike while she was traveling cross-country with just us kids on the train; probably her milk changing with pregnancy? It sounds like she and I were both miserable when it happened).

Everyone else nursed somewhere between 15 months and 18 months, but all were drinking cow's milk by 8 months (per doctor's advice) with meals, and by a year of age were mostly down to only nursing 2-3 times/day. So in the end it was unintentional MLW ....

My Dad and I were talking when Ina was about 2, about nursing, and he told me one of his favorite memories of Mom nursing - when Mom was getting ready for bed one night, putting her nightgown on, their first baby (who was about 15 months at the time) launched herself at Mom and just jumped onto her and latched on with a huge grin on her face.

Mom kept reassuring me, with Ina, that "Oh, she'll wean soon, babies don't nurse much past a year of age." She got a bit concerned when Ina was still nursing happily at two years of age, and I know it made her a little uncomfortable/worried in terms of "how long" we'd go -- but she and Dad (and everyone else truly) were great about it in the end. And, believe it or not, when talking about bf with my family awhile ago, my sister who weans promptly at a year, became very defensive about weaning then instead of continuing to nurse like me ... how's that for a switch, instead of the CLW Mom being attacked? (I'm still proud of her for nursing a full year, given that she WOH and her dh doesn't help with baby care and she doesn't cosleep).

I've never told Mom that she wasn't really doing CLW, because she is very proud of letting us nurse as long as we needed to. There is no need to take that away from her! I'm proud of her for all she did with us.

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my mom nursed me till 22 months in the 70s with family that kept asking her why she just didn't give me formula after about 6 months. I credit her for why I'm such a supporter of breastfeeding.

DHs mom nursed him till about 11 months (like PPs, she was told that she had to wean so she could have surgery) and regretted that she had weaned so soon.

So glad that my DSs grandmas are supportive of nursing
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Goodness no.

I think she nursed me for a day or two, or maybe a week or two, then, according to her, I quit. So, in her mind I probably CLW.
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Sort of.

I was born in 1973 and I weaned right before starting kindergarten in 1978. I was bribed with an owl clock which I still have. I don't remember actually nursing but I do remember being bribed. It was a no brainer to me... I took the clock with no hesitiation. I guess I was ready.

My sister was born in 1981 and she nursed until about the same age and did not have to be bribed. She just quit voluntarily.
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Not a drop of breast milk for me. When asked about it, my mom said she wanted my dad to be able to be involved.

I knew I'd breastfeed -- I had enough breastfeeding dreams way before my son was born to know that it was something I longed for on a deep level. It's a beautiful gift I've been able to give him -- he nursed for almost 4 years.
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No.....All her kids were breastfed, but she thinks toddlers nursing is 'gross.'

We don't talk, but I'm sure she'll be horrified when she hears I'm planning to CLW.
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Yes: I love my sweet mama! I weaned at 27 months. My mom told me recently that she loved nursing and would have liked to keep going beyond that, but I said "all done" one day and that was that. My mom is nearly 60 and has shared with me that she still has wonderful dreams about breastfeeding. Gotta love it! See what we have to look forward to nursing mamas?

I don't remember nursing, but I've seen a photo of me at about age 4, sucking on my finger and rubbing my cousin's head while he was nursing at his mom's breast, so I definitely had fond associations of breastfeeding at that time. I also have noticed that nursing my DS has gone very smoothly for me. I wonder sometimes if a lot of that is due to my own mom's dedication to nursing me...like my body remembers, even if my brain doesn't.
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My Mum told the nurse at the hospital on Day 1 that nursing was hurting and instead of help she got formula!

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I was born in 1973 and I weaned right before starting kindergarten in 1978. I was bribed with an owl clock which I still have. I don't remember actually nursing but I do remember being bribed. It was a no brainer to me... I took the clock with no hesitiation. I guess I was ready.

My sister was born in 1981 and she nursed until about the same age and did not have to be bribed. She just quit voluntarily.
I'd consider that to be CLW. If you hadn't been ready, the "bribe" wouldn't have worked.

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