As lots of you know, I UP'd and was planning on UC'ing.
My water broke on Friday and my husband set up the birthing pool and yadda yadda yadda. It was more exciting than a million Christmas Eve nights.
I don't feel like typing a whole lot, so I'm going to leave out the details of back labor and hands and knees positions and roaring like a tiger.
I was in labor for two days and pushed for six hours. I couldn't not push but since there seemed to be no progress I thought perhaps it was just some sort of stupid FTM fake pushing. I wasn't watching a clock so I didn't realize how long I had been doing this until later.
After a while I got the feeling that something was wrong. The feeling got stronger and stronger and couldn't be ignored. I wondered if maybe the baby's cord was too short for her to be born. So we transferred to a hospital.
My husband went in and calmly alerted the ER guy that his wife was in labor. An ER guy came out with a wheelchair, took one look at me, and yelled back to the building, "we need a gurney!". I didn't know it, but Lotus was just about to crown.
I was rushed up to L&D and everything happened so fast (literally - Lotus was born within twenty minutes of us arriving there). I had EFM strapped to me, but whatever to that, and I declined an IV. The nurse said "you *have* to have an IV" and I mentioned signing a waiver and her expression said "darn, she knows about waivers".
So blah blah blah, they made me breath through contractions until the doctor arrives, doctor arrives, I push a little bit, and Lotus' head is born. Her cord was tightly wrapped twice around her neck and the doctor couldn't unloop it so it was cut before her body was born. She was blue/grey and limp with an Apgar score of 2 and was immediately whisked away to the NICU where she received fifteen minutes of resuscitation. My husband went with her to be her advocate and her comfort while I got stitched up and cleaned up. I didn't get to see her for two hours after she was born, but we have since bonded (I can feel the oxytocin flowing through me when she nurses. It makes my uterus contract and I feel this overwhelming love for her).
Anyway, she fought a Group B Strep infection and was in the hospital for a week. I got to stay with her the entire time and by her second day she was allowed to room-in. As soon as I was discharged as a patient (but still allowed to stay as a parent of a patient), I moved the hospital bed out of the way and set up a nice big air mattress that my husband and I slept with our daughter on (amazingly, none of the nurses made a stink about us cosleeping with our infant daughter).
The hospital stay was amazing and was so much better than I ever could have imagined. There were a couple of nurses who lectured me about home birth, but other than that the support was surprisingly excellent. I did weird one nurse out when she walked in while Lotus and I were practicing elimination communication though (hehe!).
Lotus didn't get the gentle water birth that I wanted to give her. She didn't get to receive all her cord blood and we didn't have immediate skin contact. But she honestly needed medical help and I am at peace with how things happened. We're planning on Lotus being an only child, but if we change our minds, we will be planning another home birth (though likely with a very non-invasive lay midwife). I believe the key with home births (midwife-assisted or not) is to know when to transfer and to be okay with transferring when it's needed. Lotus needed to be born in a hospital and I have no grief about that.
Lindsay: DS#1 (06/06) DD#1 (09/07) DS#2 (10/08) DD#2 (06/09). AND A BABY DUE NOVEMBER 2013
Sami , wife to , mama to Tate 10/14/05, Kaleb 12/17/07, Bram 3/13/10-11/17/12, Alden 2/1/12, October 2014
Enjoy these newborn days
Me, DS, and DD Grateful to the baby I lost for sticking around long enough to teach me what I needed to know so badly We love our forest valley home, our goats and chickens, and wild harvested food-medicine
Congrats on your newest little one! Welcome earthside! :
Tristian, vegetarian wife to Matt, intactivist, UC supporting mama to my little earth-child-in-training, Ginny (4), and my sweet boy, Finnian (2). Due mid-July with our third little one!