There are lots of varieties of UC. You get to be in charge of all decisions, to me that is what makes it UC.
Angela , married for 14 1/2 years to DH, mother to DD 8-5-97, DS 8-5-09 , and SURPRISE!!! due 2-17-12
And because I wouldn't put it past most docs to lie and invent risks if I explained a plan to UC, I wouldn't hesitate to lie about my intention to come to the hospital.
they are placed there for the amusement of those who like to point them out.
Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?
they are placed there for the amusement of those who like to point them out.
So no UC does not equal UP in our case... but many women do a lot of prenatal care on their own and sort of become their own midwives, from what I understand. I would be open to this in the future, perhaps with one ultrasound in the middle - and a back up hospital to transfer to.
Lizbiz, wife to my man who makes me smile, and mom to one bouncy boy (08/07), one sassy girl (12/09), and one sweet new boy (08/12).
#2 I felt I shouldn't have to lie and I disclosed my plans at my first OB appt (different ins. different dr) I was refused care, and referred to a "High Risk OB" (all we can figure is that she carried higher malpractice insurance cause my pregnancy was NOT highrisk) which was a crock but I went to most of my appts anyway.
#3 different insurance again. saw a group of midwives who were aware of my plans and I got a few annoying lectures at first, then alot of "you're so brave"s but mostly it was a good experience! If i had any more kids (not in the plans) I'd consider going UP, as I've had very healthy pregnancies but I'm not sure I'd be ready to give up the 20wk ultrasound... I do find that info very valuable...
Lia Joy Rundle CLD Self Directed Woman Self Directed Childbirth
Womanhood is not a destination. It is an archaeological dig.
So, that means from now until the birth we will be UP, but honestly since I'll be full term in a few days, this doesn't worry me at all. In fact, it will be nice not to be weighed and measured and lectured about not falling on the proper linear growth curve! But, when you think about it, if you plan to decline most or all prenatal testing (sono, glucose tolerance, anemia, GBS, etc.), you don't have high blood pressure issues (even if you do, just get a blood pressure cuff), and you maintain a nutritious diet then, IMO, really the only reason for prenatal appointments is relationship building with your provider. If you plan to UC, then that relationship really isn't important (unless s/he is available as back up).
Mama to Avalon 1/07 , Austin 1/10 in between and Avery 12/11
I DID tell my homebirth mw that I am planning on UC'ing...she is not going to deliver me because we are moving so she is just doing my pre-natal care up until our move...and she was SOO EXCITED and happy to hear that I am planning on UC'ing! I was so suprised!!
Any ways . . .
My last pregnancy I had shadow care for the majority of my pregnancy but I spaced my appointments out longer than what they said. If Doctor said 4 weeks I'd make them 6 weeks. If doctor said 2 weeks I'd make it 4 weeks. I'd have my next appointment date set in my head before going to the counter and then just specify the day of the next appointment. They never have a problem with that.
I also don't usually start my appointments until I am past 12 weeks in my pregnancy. Before that point they really can't do much of anything and I don't believe early ultrasounds are safe either.
DH would like to do a longer stint of shadow care this time because I had surgery in April and because I am 34. Me I am not so sure just yet. I'd prefer making my first appointment when I turn 16 weeks so I can get the ultrasound done "sooner" and then maybe 1 or 2 appointment after that and then just dropping the OB. But we'll see if I can make it past the first trimester first and then go from there. I do know I need bloodwork done though.
I have had completely unassisted pregnancies and births too. Babies were surprises and we did all of our own prenatal care. I don't think my outcomes were any different from the OB cared pregnancies either.
It's all your decision though and I don't think shadow care detracts from a UC in any way. If anything you have an established relationship with an OB in case of emergency.
Mom to 9 ~*~ 4 4 & 1(MtF) ~*~
For me I guess the main thing is all the stuff that follows the birth (such as the birth certificate, etc) - and some goodies we get whilst pregnant in this country. I am sure there are ways to sort those things out without having had/seen a MW (we all get MWs here in the UK) - but in the end, I think it just makes it easier! lol
I don't really feel I will need a 'backup' - cause I think that might lead me to negative thinking will might bring about negative outcomes - but it is kinda nice to know that I will have that service available to me if I should need it.
I don't plan on telling her though. I will just call her after its all done and over with and she can sort the rest out from there as it is not illegal to have an UC but would be illegal for her to not act upon knowing I am in labour - so best she just doesn't know! lol
Look at your state laws as far as MWs go. Some states do not allow CPMs but do allow CNMs. In this case, you are more likely to find a mw okay with UC if you find a CPM. (Pennsylvania is like that - or was - and my mw is a CPM. The state tried to give her a "cease and decease" order for "practicing medicine without a license". She told them she wasn't practicing without a license because she wasn't practicing medicine. She won.) It may also help you to find someone who is either very religious or primarily works with religious people - like Mennonites and Amish. Their clients tend to lean more toward UCs (you know, the whole "it's in God's hands" thing) so the mws tend to be more okay with it. (another reason my mw is awesome. Her clientele is 95% Amish.)
Of course, that's all if you want to be up front and honest with your provider. If it doesn't matter to you whether or not they know your true intentions, then just find whomever your comfortable with.
I'll still be seeing my midwife until the end but I'm not going to mention it. She does know that the money thing is hard for us and offered to do prenatal care and then have us just go to the hospital/switch to OB care at the very end, so maybe I'll just tell her that. I mean, if I have something go wrong, I'll be doing that anyway. I'd actually just switch to UP now but I am measuring small and want to keep up on that-if I continue, she'll be sending me out for an US and possibly refer me to an OB (if the US results come back badly).
All most of us want is what is best for our baby's! If you're worried about not having a HCP in pregnancy, by all means see one
Ak Hippie mama Yamia DSD '03 DS '07 DS2 '09 & DS3 '12
This is not so cool with us so we are now thinking that a UC is what would be best for us at this point. We have a little more than a week to go before D day. So we figure, why not. I got what I wanted, which was the prenatal care and now we are getting the private and intimate birth that we have frequently talked about. Instead of telling the midwife that we just didn't call her in time, we are going to tell her that we no longer want her services from here on out.
We do have a 3 year old so we are asking trusted friends to come and occupy her just in case. We also feel like a second set of hands can't be a bad thing either. That may make it not a UC but I'd rather have those two friends here just in case I need to hold my dh's hand and also need a snack or something.
Good luck to you!
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