(And before anyone is wondering why I'd try to conceive in some of the decisions I was describing... Right now we're doing well financially, hubby has a stable job and in a few years our income will marketedly improve. I'm just trying to prepare myself for any situations that could come to help me be more empowered and educated when I finally am pregnant.)
i think that if you are going to be conceiving in a few years, then you might consider seeing if you can set up a fund for the birth. also, if it is a second child, you might ask for $ for the birth on your registry, KWIM?
i think that financial reasons "should be" low on the list for choosing to UC.
it is important that you feel safe in your birth. if you feel that your birth would be safe and happy as a UC, and there is financial benefit, then awesome. if you feel that an attendant is necessary for a safe and happy birth, then i would be creative in any way possible to have the attendant at that birth.
Grace - wife to Jeff and mama to Nigella (11/08) and Orrin (01/10)- expecting a new addition (05/12)! Life is a whirlwind, but I'm learning to enjoy the ride!
Midwifes in my area are NOT common. Right now I only know of one within two hours of me. She seems like a very nice lady and she does take payment plans. But even if money doesn't become an issue there's always the chance that she won't be free, or that we won't click for whatever reason. And as far as an ob/hospital birth, I don't really think I want that this time around. I'm going to be requesting my medical records so I can read more about what their reasons for a c section were-not that I'm necessarily expecting it to even make sense, lol. When I get pregnant I might discuss things with my old obgyn and see how he felt my ability to birth really is. (I'm concerned only because my mother had a horrible delivery and recovery giving birth to me and very nearly died-and apparently because she has the same issue I had). I'm considering, if midwifery doesn't work out, to use an obgyn for initial care and an ultrasound and then in the second or third trimester going it alone.
But I cannot ignore that money is an issue as well. It's hard to feel empowered about your options when you know that if you were to get pregnant at the wrong time, or if something were to happen, what happens to your body could be out of your control. That is where the financial practicality of ucing appeals to me. I feel safe birthing with my husband-he's great under pressure and he has medical training. It's more uping the entire pregnancy that makes me nervous, but I'm slowly learning more about that as well.
now, on the other hand, after having a disappointing/bad experience with the kaiser birth, and after my dh being out of work for five months, and me being a sahm, UC is not only empowering for me, but its also a lot more affordable
eta: havnt UCed yet ... baby is not due until aug
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With my first pregnancy, I had good BC/BS health insurance, but I live in a state where midwifery is illegal and therefore not covered by health insurance. So, after reading about the cost of midwife assisted births in my state, I thought, eh - I have a family history of short labors anyway, who needs one? And I kind of went from there.
But, I knew that I had fantastic health insurance as backup should I need true medical assistance.
Laura, mama to Henry 01.28.07
missing Jack, born still in the car 08.23.10 at 36 weeks
Loving on Catherine, my 09.01.11, UC
I already like the idea of UC and absolutely feel that birth in inherently safe. I love the idea of my husband delivering our baby.... But for us, the financial aspect is also playing a major role in our decision making.....
Super crunchy Mama to DS1, DS2, DD and wanting a bunch more! We homeschool, bed share, homebirth and baby wear. We're attached, we only cloth diaper and we don't vax. There's a lot more to us than that, but it won't all fit.
now, this time, i kinda wish i had the $ to hire a mw, ONLY because i'd like someone to fuss over me, but i can still pamper myself in other ways: prenatal yoga classes, massages, birth and pp supplies that i don't need but want (birth ball/pool, new sling, some new clothes), luxuriating in the river, things like that.
I haven't had a UC yet, but it's not a reason for us.
I had a pretty good midwife birth for my first in hospital
My 2nd was a natural birth at a kaiser hospital, i loved having a doula my mom hired but birthing at that place was no so great and i left AMA when my son was 6hours old, the post partum room was horrible and small and it was shared with another person.
When we get pregnant again i have my heart set to UC, we will probably do backup care with a obgyn since we are already paying for healthcare might as well use it and it'd be great for the just incase we needed to go to the hospital.
It was what made me consider UC seriously. Even after I found a midwife who would have done her best to take me on free/cheap and a doctor who was homebirth friendly and totally natural minded, I was 100% set on UC. I would'nt've considered it without the financial consideration (ie, couldn't afford a midwife) but once I started thinking about it it grew more and more appealing.
This time around, finances still weren't a factor. But we messed up and didn't add maternity to our insurance, and now it's a pre-existing condition that won't be covered. So....WTF
So, finances made up about 95% of my decision to UC my first. After that, it was all about what was best for me and my baby.
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Missionary, birth-worker, midwifery student
Mama to DD (9yr), DS (3yr), & UC twin DDs (5yr)
Christian, homeschooling, military wife.
Mommy to 5 wonderful girls and a super baby boy.
Expecting another sweet late August.
We have insurance that pays 100% after we meet our $5000 deductible, which is what we wanted for emergencies, considering that is the only time we would seek medical care. Adding a copay to the policy just wasn't cost effective. So we're covered in the event of an emergency.
......... i love my life! ..........