FAs, co-sleeping, babywearing, extended nursing, positive parenting, homeschooler
Laura, mama to Henry 01.28.07
missing Jack, born still in the car 08.23.10 at 36 weeks
Loving on Catherine, my 09.01.11, UC
Married 19 yrs, DD 16, DS 10, DS 7, and two babies in heaven (1998) and (2010). Praying for peace and healing from our loss.
One was a boy born at 32 weeks exactly and needed significant help breathing but was nearly 5 lbs. and was able to stay in the room for a good half hour before going to the nicu which theoretically would have been enough time to get to a very nearby hospital but there is no way I would have a baby this early at home.
One was a girl born at 34 weeks exactly and only needed very minimal breathing assistance. She was off all assistance within hours and was able to stay in the room for about an hour before going to the nicu. She was almost 6 lbs. She and I both needed antibiotics for an infection that developed in labor (with a super high fever), my water had broken over a week before. I'm borderline on if I would be ok with this at home but I lean towards not (assuming no fever).
One was a boy born at 35 weeks 5 days and needed no help whatsoever other than light therapy for jaundice. In hindsight this would have been fine at home but it's difficult to say if I would have stayed away from the hospital. A big problem with premature birth is that the cause of the prematurity is often unknown but could indicate a problem.
With my current pregnancy I have a midwife. Her general rule is 37 weeks for a homebirth but she has agreed to 36 weeks for me. The reasoning is that it's a girl and I've had an approximately 36 week baby before with no breathing difficulties.
just my.02 though.....
laura, dh Brian, ds Rory 14, dd Ellie 13, ds Caelan 11, ds Seamus 9, ds Finn 7 and Penelope 2 !!!!
Angela , married for 14 1/2 years to DH, mother to DD 8-5-97, DS 8-5-09 , and SURPRISE!!! due 2-17-12
So yeah, my answer is that it definitely depends on the baby and the mom. If I had a history of giving birth at 42w, I probably wouldn't have been ok with almost 36w...but then again, I just had this peace from God, so I don't know. It's all about God to me.
while i'm still not 100% convinced that we really needed to be in the NICU as long as we were, i'm not unhappy with my decision not to stay at home that early. for my 2nd, i'll probably be set on staying at home after 36 weeks.
Every baby is different and just because you (general you) had a baby at 34, 35, 36 weeks that was fine doesn't mean this one would be. My niece was born at 35 weeks and spent a week in the NICU. Some other baby may be born at 35 weeks and be just fine and go home after a couple of days. Problem is, you never know which one your baby's going to be until it's born.
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Because of that, I don't think I'd feel comfortable doing a UC until at least 38 weeks. I just keep the "You can be 2 weeks off either way" saying in mind. I have no idea when I ovulated this time but I know it was between my husband's birthday and my oldest's birthday (5 days) so not a huge difference luckily.
I started labor on the day of my due date with my first 2. My oldest was born in the early afternoon a day later and my middle one was born 4 1/2 hours after I found out I was already close to transition. They augmented my labor with my middle one because my contractions weren't "regular" enough for them. :eyeroll My youngest was electively induced and I regret that. She was born at 39 weeks.
With this one, I feel like she's going to arrive the week of Thanksgiving. I don't think I'll make it to the latest due date (and the one I believe is right) I have which is the 28th (my OB goes by the 26th) but I also don't think I'll still be pregnant while gobbling down turkey. :P