I need some support here ladies! Can you all give me some opinions on my decisions here?
I feel like circumstances have presented themselves that have kind of forced my hand with this one.
I have a wonderful wonderful midwife. But I live in the crappy state of Florida, and I happen to be pregnant with twins. This means she cannot under state law attend me at a H/B. I was ok with going to a hospital with a good CNM and a doctor that would do breech births (in the event baby B is breech, I'm only 17.5 weeks, so who knows!) just "in case". Well. No doctor that she knows of in the area will do a breech birth, they simply don't know how. Mind you my m/w told me without so much as telling me outright (for liability reasons) has indicated that were she in my shoes, she'd be UCing.
Even with all this, I was still pretty sure with a good CNM and a lot of cajoling IF baby b happened to be breech, I could talk them out of a C-section, so I was still hospital minded, and had a doula all lined up.
Skip till today. Found out my urine tested + for GBS. I know it means a serious colonization etc. etc. and is more serious than testing + vaginally. I've read up on the posts. But I refuse to do antibiotics unless: a) fever during labor, b) prolonged labor with ruptured waters or 3) if they're pre-term. I am absolutely immovable on this point.
So. My m/w assistant tells me (she completely agrees with me btw) that if I refuse antibiotics during labor, they will force me to let them do all kinds of bloodwork, labs, and whatever else they want to the babies, and if I refuse, then they'll ring up CPS. I am already stressed about the hospital birth, and having to argue with how I want my babies to come into this world. This was the cherry on top.
I've decided to do a UC at home with hibiclens as instructed IF both babies are head down, and none of the factors above are present (pre-term labor, fever, extended rupture of waters). DH is completely supportive as to whatever I want, he says he knows I know what's best for our babies and trusts me completely (God I love him
) I also plan on taking the babies in to my totally non-vax pediatrician the day after they're born, which I'm presently arranging with him. (He's amazing).
So WDYT? I can't believe I've just done a 180, but after crying for an hour over the positive GBS test, I realized I'd had it with people trying to interfere in our birth. Oh and PPS- how the heck do I break this to my mother? She's going to freak...