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Hi, everyone! I'm new and just beginning to really read a lot of these threads but wanted to introduce myself. I'm pregnant with my second and I have been finding, lately, that I can't get the idea of UC out of my head. I had kind of a botched home birth experience with my first. I was so stressed with the midwives there and I found that all I wanted was to be alone. I ended up in the hospital and thy wouldn't let us leave for a few days and I just remember it being a miserable and unecessary experience.

I feel so much more prepared this time, but the one question I keep asking myself is whether I have the " right motivations" if that makes any sense. Since this is uncharted territory for me, I'd love to hear how you came to the decision to have UC.

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although none of my previous birth experience were bad when i had dc#5 and #6 i felt that i needed and wanted a UC. i can't even really explain it. i don't want it to sound like i am some sort of freak or someone who did it to have one more "cool crunchy" thing under my belt. it just felt right. and both births were amazing. like i said none of the other births were bad, in fact until my first UC i would say they were wonderful, i guess i would still say that. but the UC's were different, better in a way. i felt very powerful and confident and relaxed. i had to read my body and trust it, not depend on someone to tell me this or that. 

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Hi, everyone! I'm new and just beginning to really read a lot of these threads but wanted to introduce myself. I'm pregnant with my second and I have been finding, lately, that I can't get the idea of UC out of my head. I had kind of a botched home birth experience with my first. I was so stressed with the midwives there and I found that all I wanted was to be alone. I ended up in the hospital and thy wouldn't let us leave for a few days and I just remember it being a miserable and unecessary experience.

I feel so much more prepared this time, but the one question I keep asking myself is whether I have the " right motivations" if that makes any sense. Since this is uncharted territory for me, I'd love to hear how you came to the decision to have UC.

Thanks so much, mommas!smile.gif


So, your motivation for UC is your experience of wanting to be alone during labor and birth? Sounds like a fine motivation to me! 

 

How far are you along? Do you have plenty of time to prepare?

 

I felt similar when I was pregnant with my second. My midwife combined her own alternative attitude during pregnancy (zen, yoga) with what she learned in hospital (shout at clients, cut episiotomies without asking for consent) during birth. Her actions were unexpected and dangerous (after one push, she threw herself onto my abdomen to launch my daughter out, among others). I had been reading about UC since my first pregnancy, and when I got pregnant again I thought, "Yes, I can do this!"


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personally, I don't trust doctors, I think their motivations are to push drugs and surgery and avoid lawsuits...this is not something I want at my birth.  and midwives also bring their own set of beliefs to the table, not to mention they also have the motivation to avoid litigation and most birth centers I've heard of have a transfer rate that is higher than I am willing to risk.  I would love to have some experienced female presence at my birthing, but not in the form it is currently available to me.  So I choose to UC.  Well, these things in combination with the idea that I know my body really well and trust it implicitly.  My first daughter was a hospital birth and while it was by no means awful, it wasn't great.  I believe birthing a child is a spiritual/mystical experience and the hospital just didn't allow for such things.  My second daughter was born at home with just DH and I and it was everything I imagined birth should be...sacred, magickal, dare i say....transcendental even?.....  I became a mother birthing her---- with the first, I feel more like I was sent home from the hospital with my baby..... UCing feels like a right of passage of sorts.  So I guess, in short, I do it for the magick.  

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