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Old 08-06-2011, 01:59 PM
 
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I'm a couple months before you, so I'm hearing the babe on the fetoscope quite easily now.

 

DP said on his FB about our plans to HB with a doula (for a few weeks we did plan a doula to be there) after his aunt asked if we were having a MW or UA (his aunt is a doula). I was a bit like duh.gif because I wasn't sure what reactions may come by anyone who read between the lines. But there was nothing, just his aunt encouraging waterbirth and offering any help/info she could love.gif His fam doesn't seem to see HB as a crazy thing to do. Some in my fam do, but are just "whatever" about the next "crazy" thing i decide to do. MY XH's fam is very against it. When XMIL found out I was preg again, her first thing to say was "Just don't be planning a homebirth!" I smiled and changed the subject. I won't discuss my birth choices with them. Never really would, but they were more aware when it was their sons dc.


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I'm due Nov 24, with a baby girl, the first after 3 boys. This is my 3rd UC, and I'm doing it UP this time as well, (although I did have an ultrasound)

  Feeling great, and getting larger, and am excited about birthing at home, but a little worried because my dh is working 10 hrs away for a week or two every few weeks. He'll try to get off a few weeks before baby is due, but if she comes earlier I may be on my own.

  My last birth was 2 hrs from very very start to finish, so I'm also worried I might have a 1 hr labor and am feeling like that could be too intense and quick, and cause me to be more likely to tear. Any tips for slowing down labor?

    Everyone I know is kinda used to the idea that I do UC. My parents don't even mention concerns anymore, as my sister has had both of hers UC as well. So that part of it is pretty easy. I'm at a place where I feel confident enough in my choice that I don't feel a need to defend it or keep it a secret, but don't make it known to anyone who doesn't seem interested. I sure feel relieved not to have to go to multiple prenatal checks and not to have the invasive intervention of a hospital...It feels like the right and only decision for me, as I hardly would have time for someone to take me to a hospital anyways. Who wants to give birth in a vehicle in the middle of a cold winter when they could be in their cozy little cabin? It's neat hearing of so many other women who have made the same decision!

 
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I'm due Nov 24

Any tips for slowing down labor?

 

My last birth was 3 hours and the babe was born top to toe in one contraction. I was advised to lay down next time. Both my kids were born up on a birthing stool because laying down hurt.

Regarding the fetoscope, I have been hearing the heartbeat for sometime. The hard part is finding it. It usually takes a fair bit of palpation to figure out where her heart should be to know where to aim. I am not an old pro with the fetoscope yet, but we play around with it from time to time. Otherwise this pregnancy is lovely. I'm hot and the baby feels bigger every day. I have gained 20 pounds (tho I was dieting when I got pregnant, so I'm only up 15 pounds from where I had been 3 weeks before conception.). Life is generally good. The kids are way excited.

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I got my first "Are you getting an epidural" question today, when I was at a diner, waiting for my to go order. The server comes up to me in her spare moment and asks when I'm due, I answer politely. Then she says it......"Are you getting the epidural?" I laugh lightly and say, oh no. ha I'm staying home. Her eyes bug out of her head in disbelief (expected that) and she says "well aren't you having one of those nurse people there?"    "A midwife? Nope. Completely unassisted! Except for my husband being there." To which her eyes almost pop out of her head at this point. It was kind of funny to watch, though. lol She is called to the till and as I'm getting ready to leave with mine and DH's dinner, she says "be sure to come back and tell me how much pain you were in!" and I holler back oh, I'll be back. Some people are so.......funny?

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Oy, not cool. At least she asked...all I every get are the "you are going to love the epidural" comments. Uh, yeah.

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There's really no acceptable way to ask a woman how she plans to have her baby, but she could have at least asked what my plans are, instead of assuming.......She wasn't trying to be mean, she was just curious and baffled. lol An older woman sitting at the counter with her husband overheard me and kept giving me dirty looks and whispering to her husband. Ooohhhh, I can imagine the things she was saying.

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We're expecting our second in mid-December.  My first was induced due to pre-eclampsia with every intervention short of a c/s.  When we got pregnant with this one (new state, new doctor from the first) and I told the docs my history, I was immediately labeled high risk and informed of all the extra tests I would need and the specialists I would have to see.  I remember driving home incredibly upset when the song "Uprising" by Muse came on the radio and I sang along for all I was worth.  I was sick and tired of being controlled and that they were "right" and my body was "wrong". (It doesn't help that I have pretty severe whitecoat syndrome and my BP can jump anywhere from 20 to 40 points just from walking into a doc's office).  I told my DH that I never wanted to go back and he said I didn't have to (Yep, he's amazing).  I tried talking to a couple of midwives, but they also deemed me high-risk and wouldn't take me.  The birthing center freaked me out too, especially when the lady was telling me all of the reasons they would transfer me to the hospital.  Since that first appointment (@9weeks) we've been UP'ing, and it's been wonderful.  DH will take my BP and measure my fundal height and I weigh myself at work.  We've definitely become more proactive with this birth and are excited to have the baby at home.

 

I don't do affirmations but I do talk to God a lot, especially when I'm out walking and with the sunshine and the wind and the earthy smells around me, I can't help but think that if He was good enough to give us this earth with all of its delicate balances and intricacies, how much more does it mean that he would give me a body that was perfectly designed to bring new life into this world?  I'm still a little nervous about certain things, which is why we may be going to a clinic to get a U/S next week (I've been having this pervasive feeling/anxiety this whole time that we're having twins and feel like I just have to know!).  Anyhow, thanks to all of you ladies who have BTDT and inspired me to keep searching for a better way.  Keep it up!

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There's really no acceptable way to ask a woman how she plans to have her baby, but she could have at least asked what my plans are, instead of assuming.......She wasn't trying to be mean, she was just curious and baffled. lol An older woman sitting at the counter with her husband overheard me and kept giving me dirty looks and whispering to her husband. Ooohhhh, I can imagine the things she was saying.


Not really related, but this makes me think of the recent dirty looks and outright pointing I've been getting around town lately on my bicycle. I don't drive, and my bicycle is my primary means of getting around, and hey, we're still supposed to exercise, even though we're pregnant! But from those dirty looks, I'm definitely a bad mother. Isn't it so frustrating and stupid how we can judged on our parenting abilities before our children are even born, and for things as personal as our transportation and health care and even eating choices?!?

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Not really related, but this makes me think of the recent dirty looks and outright pointing I've been getting around town lately on my bicycle. I don't drive, and my bicycle is my primary means of getting around, and hey, we're still supposed to exercise, even though we're pregnant! But from those dirty looks, I'm definitely a bad mother. Isn't it so frustrating and stupid how we can judged on our parenting abilities before our children are even born, and for things as personal as our transportation and health care and even eating choices?!?


UGH! You terrible woman! How DARE you exercise while you are pregnant! Don't you know you're disabled once you conceive? LOL
 

 

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