Hi Ladies! I am 28 weeks with my 4th babe. My first two were hospital (unmedicated) births, my third a homebirth with a midwife, and while I began care with midwife at 15 weeks, I'm feeling a need to continue on with prenatal care and birth on my own. I have developed a sort of friendship with my midwife, but I know her thoughts on unassisted childbirth and she is strongly opposed. How do I go about discontinuing care without conflict with her? I do have a couple of "in a pickle" issues:
1) I have paid her just short of 3/4 of her fee already, how do I ask for a portion of that back?
2) I will be working with her in the beginning of January with a client I have (I'm a birth doula). I know, professionalism will definitely prioritize to personal discomfort of working with her so close to my own due date, but still, you know?
3) I won't be able to tell her who I am transferring care to (since it will be myself) and that will cause issues with her.
Some side notes for consideration:
1) We do not have a contract.
2) She has pulled a no-call/no-show to three prenatal visits. Two of those times she simply "forgot". (She was fanastic about appts with my last pregnancy/birth and have no idea why she would be just forgetting now.)
Did anyone else discontinue care later on in pregnancy with a homebirth midwife?
Just thought I'd update -
We talked and all went very well. I'm glad we could part ways as client and midwife so peacefully and hopefully we'll be able to maintain our friendship as well.
Glad that went smoothly!! It is so frustrating trying to maintain relationships with professionals while planning a UC. I'm still considering if I want to have a real prenatal appointment with my midwives this time around. so far I went in to get bloodwork done cause I was concerned about my iron levels, which turned out to be fine, but I'm hesitent to get officially on the books with them because I don't want check-ups or routine tests, I just want back-up care & an established relationship incase something comes up... But I think if I go in they'll insist i have some kind of standard care (6weeks between appts is the best i expect them to offer)