This is my first post in this section. Hii! I'm planning my first UC. Both previous pregnancies were homebirths with hands-off CPMs. This time around I am single. My question is kind of odd.... if something were to necessitate a transfer for myself (baby totally healthy), I would want to take the baby with me to the hospital to breastfeed, I think. Since I do not have a partner and the father will most likely not be present, my mother would accompany me and take care of the baby while I couldn't. Should I type up some sort of letter for her to keep with her that states she has full rights to make decisions for the baby if I am incapacitated? Something that also states the hospital may not touch the baby at all without my or her express permission? I am scared of even taking the baby to the hospital at all but if I had to be at the hospital for some emergency the baby would need to eat and my mom wouldn't leave me at the hospital alone anyway and she'd be the one caring for the baby so baby would have to come along. I would only go to the hospital for a serious emergency but want to be prepared since the father will not be around to make any decisions.
Not a UCer, but I do work in a hospital :)
First, you should definitely have paperwork done that gives your mom permission to make medical decisions for the baby. Otherwise, the hospital would probably try to find and contact the father.
Second- The hospital can't touch the baby if it's not admitted as a patient and there's no emergency. That being said, if there was an emergency and you needed to transfer but the baby was fine...you might want to go to the hospital without the baby and just have your mom bring it for feedings. That's not ideal for anyone, obviously, but if mom comes in with a newborn who is a few minutes old and doesn't let the hospital check the baby out...I could see bad things happening as far as involving social work, etc.