I just found out I'm pregnant with our fourth baby, second UP/UC. I always struggle in the beginning due to a history of miscarriage, so I was wondering what kind of positive phrases do you think about to keep the worries at bay?
Fear is such an interesting thing.
I lost a pregnancy, had a successful pregnancy, lost a pregnancy and am pregnant again.
My biggest fears with my successful pregnancy was pooping during delivery and I was terrified of ending up at a hospital. My husband was out of the country and the person I hired for the homebirth no-showed... I had zero support. Well, I ended up giving birth at a hospital, and we both survived. And nobody there actually did much of anything. If anything, I'd say the medical staff got in the way and made it take longer. Fortunately I showed up extremely last minute and they didn't have time to interfere much. There was one super supportive nurse, whom I consider to be my red-haired angel and I am eternally grateful to her.
When I lost the third pregnancy, I was told by a midwife in Ontario to go back where I belonged to have the baby and kicked out of care a few weeks after she had accepted me as a client. I cried for three weeks and lost the baby and hemorrhaged big time, ending up at the hospital where I almost died while left unattended and ended up with a D&C. I was devastated.
With this pregnancy, there was some wondering whether the baby would stick around, and sometimes there still is. I just feel so strongly what is meant to be is meant to be at this point. If this baby doesn't come, it was meant to be. The power of acceptance seems to just eliminate the fear.
The biggest thing I would tell you is don't resist the fear when it comes. What you resist, persists. I would really recommend looking at the fear when it arises and just watch it. Feel it in your body. And then watch it go. It only comes for a few seconds at a time really, as long as we don't latch on to it and keep it and build it. Sometimes this is easier said than done, but the more you can watch it without attaching to it, the easier it goes when / if it does come.
Congrats and best wishes for your pregnancy !!!
The biggest thing I would tell you is don't resist the fear when it comes. What you resist, persists. I would really recommend looking at the fear when it arises and just watch it. Feel it in your body. And then watch it go. It only comes for a few seconds at a time really, as long as we don't latch on to it and keep it and build it.
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