This appears to be the most suitable place to post this question. I am NOT looking to start a debate and am personally pro-life, but here goes. A good friend of mine has two children with her abusive.... partner/ex/on-off boyfriend and just discovered she is pregnant with a third. She asked me to lend her my copy of Wise Woman Herbal for the Childbearing Year, because I lent it to her before and she remembers there is a section on how to carry out herbal abortion. She thinks she is in no position to raise another child on her own with the father's constant abuse and pressure weighing heavily upon her all the time. I can't say I would do the same, but I certainly understand.
My friend had one homebirth and one UC and is NOT interested in going to an abortion clinic. She only just missed her period and wants to use herbs to terminate her pregnancy. Here is my concern — if I lend her the book and the abortion turns out not to work, it is my understanding that the herbs can still cause heavy birth defects and the pregnancy cannot be continued. Right? Yet I can see her not going to the doctor if it doesn't work out.
My question is, I guess, how she can do what she is going to do anyway in the safest possible manner, and if any of you have any advice for her. I don't want her to do anything dangerous, and I know absolutely nothing about this topic. There must be some ladies here who do know and are willing to give some advice. I am terrified that she will use the herbs suggested in the book (don't know what they are and haven't read the book since my last UC) and that something will go wrong.
Thanks for your honest answer. I totally agree with your comments — my friend is extremely weary of outside intervention and scared of doctors. Her, whatever you call him, is also against her seeking advice from doctors or anyone except the local lay midwife. This is probably because he wants total control over her.
Yes, surgical abortion can be a risky affair, especially where we live. It can lead to infection, cervical damage, or punctures in the uterus. I wouldn't trust the local abortion clinic to provide her with proper care either (we live in a developing nation and that was a huge reason why I chose to UC). But from what I have read about herbal abortion since posting this thread, it is only effective about half of the time at best. This really is a difficult dilemma.
Thanks for your thoughts, again. You seem like a really caring person. I might direct her here so she can find out more. She would be concerned about the side effects of the abortion pill, for sure, but I haven't heard that this is even an option where we live. Perhaps it's best that she sees a TCM practitioner, who has the qualifications to give proper advice about herbal abortion.
sisterzeus.com is an informative place to start looking
Each herb can interact with other herbs or medications. You must look that up. Bleeding disorders and other medical conditions can make herbs unsuitable. Do be careful. My understanding is that many of the herbs consider 'toxic' are unproven to be either way. My midwife said she's had women try with even pennyroyal and deliver healthy babies. Wormwood, cedar, and tansy look kind of dangerous to me as far as potential defects go. How far along is she? That will play a major role in how successful she is with the herbs. Don't forget stretching and the like. Exercise a lot and so forth during the process. Get decent nutrition.
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